Poll- Do your parents get mad or jealous if you start own life with your SIGNICANT OTHER? Why my parents are jealous and controlling?

[Sugar100]

my parents and I have been fighting for months now as they don’t want accept I’m An adult. I turn 25 this year and I live alone. They get jealous as I see boyfriend and I have my own life now. They want me only see mom or dad but not see boyfriend never. Mom calls me sick in the head as I said I’m starting new life with my partner. She wants me be following her daily living together like I’m 5 years old forever. Dads becoming jealous too. My whole family cousins, etc etc all are only with their boyfriend or gfs daily. I don’t see parents fighting children to be with them 24/7 and not have a partner. Do you guys have same experience or no? I told mom shut up! She and dad are toxic!! She is alone miserable no man that’s why she talks shit of my boyfriend all the time!!! She’s jealous of me!!! Dads forcing me fix an issue with my car and tries make plans to see me weekly and don’t wan time see boyfriend and wants me cancel weekly everything with my boyfriend , he’s my partner!!

[Siren777]

Create firm boundaries with them. When they overstep your boundaries you distance yourself from them. You're and adult now but they need to respect your choice as their parents respected theirs when they were young. You do realize you can say no, and not be forced into anything anymore. You live on your own now. Some parents think it's okay to be toxic and do whatever they can to you because you're their child. They will always see you that way. Respect goes both ways. If you get upset and continue to allow their behavior they will continue to do this. This is the type of codependent behavior that's not healthy. You're allowed to love them with all of your heart but you need to create boundaries. You can love them at a distance.

[Sugar100]

I keep blocking and keeping distance but they don’t change or learn they act the same

[Siren777]

Then you need to decide to take a break from them for some time and when you're ready contact them again.

[Sugar100]

I did that 5x already and they don’t change

[RebeccaBI2000]

Thank goodness my parents never did that, but it did happen with my cousins. Mine are happy that I have a house already and not paying rent anymore

[DeepPassionateLover]

Been there myself, but no matter how damn frustrated or angry you might get about it, taking the high road and being upfront but polite about your choices and your feelings are the only way to have meaningful change. I used to constantly bat back and only really exasperated the situation. Having some inclusion with your folks is perfectly fine, but making sure you draw a clear line with them, not just as their child, but as an adult of your own is key, at least how I've found.

[Sugar100]

My parents don’t listen to any word they say

[Sugar100]

I blocked them and I cried feel miserable

[Sugar100]

They give me misery

[Sugar100]

Tell me why they don’t want me be with partner daily? They r jelaous I’m Not with mom n dad daily , I’m not 5? Wtf

[Jamie05rhs]

Is this a NEW boyfriend? Because the one you had wasn't that great. You were complaining to us about him all the time.

[Sugar100]

I’m
Talking about my parents in this post

[Jamie05rhs]

I'm aware. But this detail matters. You really want to start a life with this man? Are you sure he's the one?

[TrillXHippy]

If they should get mad at me for anything it should be because unlike my brothers I’m the only single one

[Anonymous]

Why do you give your parents so much power over yourself?

[Sugar100]

I don’t give them power, we talk on phone and they fight like monsters as I’m not doing what they say and get mad don’t understand I’m an adult they think I’m teenager or 5 year old. They get angry at the word adult

[Sugar100]

Since they don’t get thier way I just block them stay distant that’s all I can do.

[Opinion Owner]

Well, at least you do something like blocking them. Many wouldn't go that far, so that's good.
You can choose not to talk to them also.

Many people don't know when it's time to stay out of someone's business and respect the boundaries of others. Your parents are the case here. It's only a normal natural reaction from your side to fend them off.

[Sugar100]

Mom keeps repeating same thing that I’ll live with her in her house she buys one day. 🙁 it’s just funny at this point I told her million times I won’t live with her I’m not baby sleeping in moms bed that’s sad. I’ll be25-30 and I have to be with my man have own life I have dreams too and I don’t want settle down in her city she dreams to live in

[Opinion Owner]

You don't have to.
They can say whatever they can say.
Ultimately you steer your own life, how it will proceed, how you will end up and so on.
All these are affected by the choices you make.

[Anonymous]

I don't know. I have never had an SO.