When someone is depressed or feeling down like your friend they're not ready to hear that things are good elsewhere. Even though you mean well it's like saying to someone who was insulted by something and then just telling them don't be insulted.
That said you're a good friend for trying to let him vent but if you've had enough you can tell him something like, "I know things have sucked for you lately (validation if his feelings) and I'm here for you. That said, if you're really this sad and it's all consuming for you, I'd highly recommend talking to someone that can better help you, like a therapist.
As your friend it's become difficult to hear you so upset. It makes me sad too and it's becoming difficult for me to have these conversations with you. I don't want you to think I'm saying don't talk to me about this but I'm at a loss for words. Please call a therapist and set up an appointment and when you're done with one, I'd like to hear how you're going to work on getting yourself into a better place
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I'm guessing he's wanting practical solutions, or just a friend to vent to. It's very frustrating when people tell me to "think positively" or something along those lines when I open up to them, it feels like they're just ignoring the issue and don't really want to help. It feels like we're being given empty platitudes to shut us up. We want the problem to be solved, not ignored. That's why guys usually don't want to share their feelings, because when we do the people we expose our vulnerabilities to don't want to be around us anymore, since we just bum them out. So we keep our emotional issues bottled up. I don't think your friend just wants to be negative, but he also doesn't want to fake positivity, because all that does is makes things feel worse.
I would encourage him to get professional therapy. If someone wants help they will get help. Some people’s comfort zone is negativity. If he enjoys being negative, let him find other negative people to spend time with. I have found that men who function from a negative viewpoint will often use it to kind of trap a girl bc they know most girls try not to be rude.
I support my friends n family who r struggling but if its too toxic n they decide to refuse good change then it won't be useful
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Separate yourself for your own mental wellbeing. You can only do so much for others then you have to take care of you.
Distance yourself from this person. Negativity is contagious. He'll get the memo if you suddenly go cold.
Distance. You have to love people like him from a distance.
I agree with you. You need to be kind but firm and not let him drag you into his negativity.
Here's a referral to a few therapists I found useful when I was challenged. I can't do thos anymore
This guy needs to deal with his own issues and not drag you down. No one likes to hear someone bellyache day after day.
I study them, find out why they’re negative, personify that weakness and leave them totally broken.
Just let him be. Never let someone else's vibe enter your personal space. You can learn from them by using your own intelligence.
Spend this little time as possible with them before rubs off on you👍
Advise him to get a girlfriend
He needs to go to therapy
I go the other way.
I don't it's to depressing
Ignore them
I don't. Fuck them.
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