Ever since my obese dad got his gastric sleeve surgery done he’s been calling me chubby and stuff like that and today I was upset that he said that to me as soon as I woke up. I don’t think I’m chubby I think that I’m average but I do want to lose weight and I’ve been trying I also want to enjoy my life and enjoy good food on the weekends. When either one of my parents calls me fat I feel very hurt about it and cry when I’m alone I know that they’re obese themselves but for some reason it really hurts. I don’t even eat that much I eat only twice a day and on the weekend if I want to eat junk I only eat once a day my problem was not exercising but I’m trying to do that now no matter how stressed I may be because I’ve been pretty stressed. After my dad said that to me we got into an argument and he told me go weigh yourself the scale doesn’t lie and he’s always acting like that since he got his surgery a week ago. I already have low self esteem and work stress I do not need this
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Meanwhile my little brother doesn’t even eat one vegetable but they’re all over me
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Can everyone report this question I want to take it down but it was voted as a great question so it doesn’t allow me
Isn’t it wrong for your family to wake you up saying “good morning chubby” if you already let them know that you’re trying to lose weight?
I mean, he has no room to talk, especially since he had surgery to take care of it. And he is definitely being rude. But if they are both heavy, and calling you chubby, then at least they can relate.
Here's the thing. You make a lot of excuses for why you can't lose weight. You are stressed, you are TRYING to work out, you're feeling hurt, etc... And that's fine, but none of that is going to help you lose weight. I hear a lot of heavy people say the same things.
Either you want to lose weight or you don't. Excercise, watch what you eat, and just try and be more active. No one cares that you feel bad about being chubby. If you want to lose weight, you are the only one that can do that. If you don't care, then tell them to shut up, and don't worry about it.
But that is part of being bigger, you know it, everyone else knows it, but they aren't allowed to say anything about it. That doesn't mean they aren't thinking it, and you can't stop that unless you actually lose weight.
If your parents calling you chubby doesn't help motivate you, then tell them to shut the fuck up. Or start commenting on their weight and see how it goes.
Do they just shrug it off? Maybe because they are comfortable with themselves and don't give a fuck. You could learn from that.
I'm not saying this all to be a dick, but I hear a lot of victim mindset in all of this. You are just looking for people to tell you your parents are dicks, and you are fine the way you are. But that will only make you feel good right now, it won't change anything in your life. If you aren't happy, then you need to work for it.
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Yeah I’ve been trying to work out everyday and feeling a little better
Well, just keep doing it. Just make it a part of your routine. Something you do every day.
Either early morning or after work, go for a run/long walk. Set a schedule and stick to it as close as you can. It will become a habit after a few weeks. Then, at night, don't eat out every night.
Spend a weekend day cooking your lunches / dinners for the week. Protein, carb, veggie, not a ton of extras, plain might not taste the best, but it is healthy. You can spoil yourself with food out 1-2 a week. Will also save money doing this. I always make 2 big meals, that way I can switch between the 2, not eat the same food everyday. And it's easy to just heat up and eat.
Cut out the soda, and sugar. Drink lots of water, and do some weight lifting as well. You don't have to get all buff, but weight training will actually help you lose a lot of weight. A new active hobby wouldn't hurt either. Hiking on the weekends, biking around the park, etc.
And you are taking the feedback well, which means you are on the right track. You just need to believe in yourself a bit more. A lot of people say they don't care if they are heavy, but most people know they do, and it's just a defense for their own ego. But the world isn't kind to heavy people, and you ignoring it won't change that. It might not even be intentional. But after you get enough comments, or have someone leave you for someone "hotter & skinnier" despite how great of a person you are. You will see how the world really works, despite the nice things people say, our true nature comes out in the actions, not the words people speak.
Those things might still happen, but at least you would know it wasn't the result of you NOT trying.
Sounds depressing I know, but the good thing is you can either say fuck it all, or do something about it. It's completely up to you. You just have to actually do it. You will be amazed how good you will feel as a result, I promise.
I don’t see myself as chubby just average but I’ve always wanted to be skinny like Asian girls I know that that’s not possible though with my wide hips and curves and I just ain’t built like that but I’ll still try to get skinny even if I never was
Yea that’s kind of fucked up but it probably means they love you as well and just teasing you cause you been probably complaining about your weight a lot so they are teasing you about it cuz to them it really isn’t a big deal cuz they love you no matter what , When people constantly put themselves down and hate themselves the people that actually love them will think they are being silly for talking that way , we can be are own worst enemy especially when we look in the mirror at ourselves and think damn I am ugly , our mind and eyes go directly to the things we hate about ourselves and As for other people that look at us they aren’t looking at the same things that we are looking at , so when someone tells us we are good looking or beautiful it’s hard for us to accept that because we really don’t accept ourselves , just like when someone takes a picture of us and then we see that picture and think ewww I am fugly I need to lose more weight blah blah blah , So again it’s hard for us to accept ourselves cuz we live in a world that is fixed on image and most of us are brainwashed to believe we need to look a certain way to be accepted , if someone else is putting you down it’s because they don’t like themselves they attack others to make themselves feel better about themselves cuz they are the ones that are insecure and have low self esteem about themselves , people Get jealous of each other all the time , when you can overcome that within yourself you will notice More people will be drawn to your confidence cuz the reality of things is image doesn’t Really matter , it only matters to people That are insecure about themselves , so rock who you are and accept who you are , if you aren’t happy with yourself then change yourself for yourself not for someone else’s approval , not everyone on this world is going to like us but we Can surround ourselves with people that do and that’s all The really matters
Yes that's really insensitive of them. It's likely the people that are calling you names are dealing with their own issues or insecurities and are taking them out on you. Happy and content people don't say these things to other people, let alone their own family. I would set your boundaries as others have said. Lock your door and tell them how rude they are being. Be civil, but maintain your boundaries.
They sound very toxic, but eating less won't help you in a healthy way. You have to find the balance between an exercise and meal plan, eat healthy... skipping meals of the day isn't good for your body.
Tldr: Yes: Name-calling is mean & bullying. I will say: In Japan it's way more socially acceptable for people to point out each other's chubbiness. This is probably partly because Japanese people are much skinnier than Americans. It's generally done with the good intention of alerting someone that they need to continue looking out for their health. However, in your specific situation: it really sucks that this is coming from the obese people who probably gave you the poor habits and poor genes that probably led to this issue. Just remember to focus on your health so that eventually they'll be the only ones worth insulting & they can't call you stuff anymore.
You have a choice. Either learn to dish out comebacks, or I can help you lose weight. For example, Next time your parents pick on you and call you chubby. Simply come back with something like:-
"Now you've had your gastric band done, are you getting your eyesight fixed next?"
The key to losing weight if you really want to, is diet hard during the week, but eat what you like on just one of the days, not both days on the weekend.. Never eat badly or too much two days or more in succession. That alone, and cutting out carbs might be all you need!
First of all that's mean.. A parent should never talk to their children that way.. it's rude and disrespectful.. obviously your parents have issues they have to deal with but they are taking it out on you. Now here comes the though part... You too have a few issues. Low self-esteem and confidence is hurting you big time.. I hope you can find something to make you feel better about yourself. Eating too little is almost as bad if not worse then eating too much.. you need well balanced meals through out the day.. exercise will also help with a balanced diet.. i understand exercising can be difficult for some people. Rest is also important.. I don't think you look that bad maybe a few extra pounds but nothing serious.. in today's society with all the fast food and sweets it's very difficult. As an example I eat 6 times a day.. every 3 hours. I schedule and count everything I eat.. I'm on the extreme side though. But once you get use to it , it is very easy to do.
Tell your dad to stop sexualizing you, may be a stretch but should shut him up. He's being a dick, maybe he's just trying to motive you but it's a bad approach.
I don't know if you want to get a bunch of people to tell you your average here for an ego boost, but to be honest you are chubby, I ain't saying it to insult you or make you give up its just the hard truth at the moment. Keep up the good work on your diet and exercise, change isn't fast or easy, stick with it, you can do it.
You look great your dad just sounds like an asshole who talks about other people to feel better. I know you want him to be perfect but sounds like he's just trying to make you feel bad in a tough love kinda way to get you to work harder but that's not really something he should be doing with something like this. He had a corrective surgery and didn't have to put in any work or cut back on stuff he like to help himself. Like I said before you look great. The whole perfect weight thing is really a bunch of crap as long as your weight doesn't interfere with your health and quality of life then I say screw the media and anyone elses opinion.
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I know it's hard, but you have to stand up for yourself (think of it like a bully at school). Tell your dad (or anyone) that it really hurts your feelings and to please stop doing it. If he cares about you (as he should being your parent), he'll respect that. It'll also "demand" some respect as you've stood up to him. Now don't misunderstand, you don't have to do this all angry or anything, don't do that, be nice still, but firm. Just state that, that's it. In a calm tone of voice. Does your mom do it also? Either way, you can also mention it to her (or the two of them together). But don't be afraid, nothing bad should happen because all your doing is expressing your feelings... and, if you do it in a respectful way like this, unless your parents are extremely immature, they should respect this.
You laid your boundaries down and they didn’t respect it. It’s not okay for them to do that. Your body is great but the principle of the matter still stands. They have no right to say anything about your body, especially if you made it clear you don’t enjoy that subject of conversation.
You actually have a great shape ! I was a personal trainer, if you want me to send you an easy at home workout plan for free just message me. You already have a great body, this will just give you more results within the first 3 weeks if you stick to it. Wouldn’t only take 35 minute 4 times a week. It’ll just make you even tighter
Personally, I think you’re a very attractive woman. If you’re chubby/fat, then im Godzilla. people have different ideas of chubby/fat and that doesn’t fit my idea. “For whatever it’s worth.” Even if your dad lost weight that way, he was still fat before. If you KNOW it’s not joking, then try to block it out and be fit. Again, I think you’re spot on, but for whatever it’s worth.
Doesn’t matter how big or small you are (which you aren’t even big at all), your family shouldn’t be making fun of your appearance. Your dad should know how it feels if he was once overweight himself. They should be encouraging you on your weight loss journey instead of poking fun.
@chrismaster69 is right. Mods can only take down questions that are in violation of the rules. Plus, since it is a great question, I can't even do that. I can report it, but I can 100% guarantee it will stay.
I think you look awesome! If YOU want to make a change to your body you certainly can. But don't let anyone bully you. That bikini looks amazing on you.
Ofc its wrong but clearly they don't care unfortunately
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You know what the old me would’ve starved herself because of those comments but I’m not going to do that anymore I’m going to eat normally and not skip any meals just eat healthier and exercise more I start work in less than two hours and I will not let them bring me down
Thats how u do it starving yourself wouldn't work long term and it dont teach u how to keep the weight off just about better eating habits and exercise
I'd be all over you too! I'll bet you smell awesome when you're sweaty! You're body is hot af. Avoid the toxic foods, the processed stuff. Exercise. Form follows function. Everyone should do these basic things. But if you're still sexy curvy like you are... I'd be loving it. It's hard to ignore haters but you need to develop that skill. Sorry they're being jerks. I hope you find what you need.
Fucking cruel. Keep trying to make the right choices and add some movement or exercise into your life. You take care of you. Sorry you’re having to deal with this
I was just curious, I'm sorry. You don't need to erase it. About your question, I'd say you shouldn't pay too much attention to what your father says. You mentioned he just did surgery to lose weight, right? He must be in a "I'm the best" phase and you have two choices. Be quiet and respect his insecurities or be honest with him, without being disrespectful: make a joke, say "not all of us have the luxury of take the easy path to achieve our goals so, watch me and learn, dad!"
First things first you're just beautiful and I would love to wake you with my hot wet mouth softly biting your inner lips as I move upwards swirling my hot wet tongue around your swollen Clitoris faster and faster as I suck harder and harder on your Clitoris than plunge my tongue deep inside you softly biting your inner lips as you cum harder inside my hot wet mouth.
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