My friend’s friend hates my guts. What do I do?

[Anonymous]

There’s this person whom I have had many issues with in the past and who has been spreading rumors about me. This person happens to be best friends with my really close friend. Them being friends doesn’t really upset me as I know, I can’t control who they’re friends with.

My problem is my friend tries to constantly mix us together and puts us in situations where the person I don’t like comes in contact with me and treats me really poorly which i’ve expressed many times to my friend that it makes me upset and to just leave me out of it.

Like yesterday. The friend had us working on a professional project that he was leading and the person i don’t like was being extremely mean to me, shoving me, and making all kinds of gestures when I was just trying to do my job. I came home crying.

I got into a huge argument with the friend over it and they don’t seem to understand why I have issues with the person or how any of it pertains to them. They think I’m being manipulative. I’m not really sure what else to do or how to feel. Am I in the wrong?

[Crepe_tart]

I think that you should talk with your friend (talk, so no fighting/arguments. Maybe go eat with them outside so it's easier to have a conversation cause you won't get anywhere without her listening) and tell her something like "I understand that for you she is nice and that you like her, but making us be together is making things worse. She is your friend, not mine and she will never be my friend". Making both of you be together can even break your friendship with your friend, so tell her that next time she wants to do it again, you'll stop talking to her because she's not even taking you into consideration.

Oh and be careful, careful not of the girl making rumors about you, but the people who easily believe those rumors.

I had a friend, I'll call her R and she did some stuff that I didn't like and she wanted to manipulate me, but I didn't let her do it so we cut off ur friendship. The next years I would make a friend, she would talk shit about me with them and they would stop talking to me. She did it to all of my friends and I was left alone. I felt awful but I realized that it was my "friends" fault too. I realized they weren't really my friends if they believed all that shit and I think am better off alone.