My male friend I met on March, never initiates or plans a day out?

[Anonymous]

I’m always organising a day out, I’m the one who always initiates planning. And now I am fed up. I purchased a ticket for my friend to join me in August at an event, The ticket was expensive… and in return he promised he will organise a day out somewhere special for both of us take me out somewhere nice. Here I am again organising our day out…ugh! he has made no effort whatsoever. So I have just cancelled meeting up with him. I made an excuse, looks like August will be my last time I will see him, Because I don’t feel valued also another friend of mine let me down when we booked a holiday to Mykonos she didn’t pay her half, This male friend Suggested perhaps he will come along with me but he had no intentions of paying his half and expected a free holiday, so in the end I decided to go with my daughter. Honestly, I don’t feel valued. What would you do in my situation?

[PrettyPriya]

I don't blame you not feeling valued. That isn't much of a friend to be honest. Some people are just not planners like you are. That is natural to run into that type of person. However, false promises and using you for a free trip is another story.

It is one thing to be the type that doesn't plan ahead. It is a completely other issue expecting you to do the hard work AND pay for the trip as if you are giving out free vacations. I am sure that you work hard and that money doesn't grow out of the ground for you.

Sounds like that friend doesn't value you. If it were me, I would stop putting the effort in as well. He clearly isn't and likely never will because he knows that you will do it. Other than that, I'm glad you took your daughter. That sounds like a special trip and with someone that actually appreciated it.

[Asker]

I work seven days a week and navigate days off for my socialising, I work for myself from home. He promised me that he will take me up on my nice he probably thinks I don’t listen and won’t notice. I don’t do golddiggers sponges people expecting a free ride, it really annoys me in fact I think it really hurts me. It’s All I’ve ever known. It’s a shame I can’t cancel the expensive ticket for August as it’s non-refundable. After that event I will not be seeing him again. He’s taking advantage of my kindness and generosity. And he can’t even do the same for me… Despicable behaviour.

[PrettyPriya]

I agree with every word you just said. It is taking advantage of you and despicable. He doesn't deserve your friendship and is just using you. Best move on like you intend to do. He isn't going to change.

[Avicenna]

I wouldn’t make such efforts if they weren’t wanted or appreciated.

[Guy13]

I woukd have been out long ago.

[Asker]

I already have a few months back, his response… I’m so sorry for being such a rubbish person. And two weeks ago he promised to take me somewhere nice and expected me to organise it. I have cancelled my meeting with him tomorrow.

[Guy13]

Wow, this guy is a slow learner OR the next girl is going to appreciate your the hard way training of him. Talk about something that just plain sucks….

[Iron_Man]

Talk to him about it