My boyfriend never initiates dates?

[Anonymous]

I asked him:"why is it always Me asking You when we will meet? why Im the one always organising dates?"

He answered its because he is not that organised and that im better organising... and then told me that ofcourse he like to spend time with me and told me to not get paranoyed.

Really? so to be able to tell me:" hey babe want to stay at my house tonight, i missed you and want to spend time together"

This really needs some super effort of organization?

[Anonymous]

Notice how he sets his boundary and sticks to it? “I’m not good at organizing, you’re better at it”, that is where he stands whether it works for you or not. Meanwhile, you just bend to his will and ditch your own standard. 50/50 or him planning a date would be great, but since he doesn’t wanna do that, you just abide, and to me that’s pretty sucky. What would happen if you stopped planning? Sounds like nothing would get done and that says a lot about the trajectory of your relationship. You will always be the planner, no surprises, no ideas, no fun dates on his behalf. I wouldn’t want to look forward to that.

[TonyMetal___86]

You want him to tell you to stay at his house for the night? What a naughty girl 😂 and are you going to sit like an angel in his house doing nothing HAHAHA
I mean you're right about that he must initiate things sometimes like let's go together somewhere or do this and that but you made me laugh when you suddenly jumped to the house part, maybe he must tell you: come over tk my bed tonight cause it feels so big and lonely, also cold and i need warmth in it 😅😅

[Asker]

Its an example as if he could say lets go to the movies, lets go to the beach, lets have dinner together whatever
We date for 2 years

[TonyMetal___86]

You're right about that...

[Anonymous]

What you need is another man. The way I see it in his eyes you’re not worth the effort. I’m not saying he had to do everything but at least do some things. When you plan it who pays?

[Asker]

Or 50/50 or sometiems him

[Opinion Owner]

You need a new ma

[Anonymous]

A lot of guys resent having to take the lead all the time