Why are people so cliquey and self centered?

[shaysh87]

I've noticed this since I was a teenager. As a lonely kid in high school who had no friends, nobody ever bothered inviting me into their group of friends or talk to me even though they clearly knew I was lonely. Now that I'm an adult, it's the same thing happening. I would ask people if they want to hangout and 95% of the time , they are ALWAYS looking for excuses or reasons to reject / refuse or deny. I wasn't even asking them to be my best friends, I'm just looking for someone to chat with over coffee on a rare occasion. When I try to talk to make conversation with adults at work, they would act as if I am trying to bother them as they are flipping through their Instagram on their phones. This is more so prevalent in the younger generation ages 20 to 30s. I almost never ever see this in the older generations 40s-60s. They're always up for a genuine conversation, relatable, put effort into conversations. These millenials and gen z are just so cliquey.

[Ευδεμονια]

In general, I can relate with your situation. I’ve been always a loner, with very few friends and have always struggled to make new ones or new acquaintances, due to shyness and introversion.
People in general don’t encourage interaction, especially those around our age, especially from a male perspective they look at you like you’re going to rob or to kill them.
I think your statements in general are true but there are exceptions, since sometimes it’s possible to find someone to chat with or to spend good time with, someone with a minimum of empathy. Sure older people is more sociable but I assure you nothing is completely lost, all depends on how you approach people. Obv good part of people is assh*les but I think in general someone to talk with at work or to relate with, at least for 10 minutes, its findable.

[Anonymous]

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