Help, I’m sad as I have a toxic family, do you have a toxic family? If so how do you cope being alone?

[Sugar100]

I’m 25 in 2 months. I live alone in a studio apartment. I have cut off my toxic aunt & cousins, & now cutting out my toxic brother & his wife’s family. I’m nice whole life but I don't know y my sister in law talks shit to my brother she doesn’t want my brother be with his mom or sister she only wants him for her family that’s it. I haven’t seen that family in a year and went to thier party & brother did not say a word to me or say bye we didn’t even look at each other , it was a side hug with zero emotion like hatred. I get invited but her 5 sisters all ignore me & screaming on table of their life their vacations they will go to acting like I don’t exist. I have an aunt that is so jealous of my mom & me that she talks shit to me mom calls her ugly & talks shit to me says immentally retarded. My aunt envies me as I have a business & jelaous of my life. She teaches her daughter to hate me too. I relaxed they all earn more money & no longer poor so money got to their heads & changed. I live alone & the only person that supports me is my boyfriend. He’s the only person I talk to. I don't know if it’s a blessing in disguise but while ago me n boyfriend fought & life felt weird lonely without him, now that he’s back I feel happy & complete. But my family r gone cutt out from my life. It doesn’t bother me but makes me feel at peace. But what advice do you guys recommend? Is life better like this? Did I get a blessing in disguise by having boyfriend only in my life? ik him 5 years. Only he shows me love and supports me.

[Bolty44]

First of all I'm so sorry you don't deserve it no one does family should be the least thing we worry about in this soulless world, I've got separated from family when I was 5 and i returned back at 16 and they didn't treat me good and told me to leave it broke me destroyed all my dreams and hopes of life i felt like nothings left i should erase myself and i was depressed dropped college sat in a room ate once a day didn't talk with anyone watched anime and series played games to get distracted but then all i thought about was i lived a sad life fighting everyday I've never given up i did hard mental work as a 5 year old now I can't just go without getting my reward i need to enjoy whatever i get to so I'm trying to give love to people i have couple of friends from 1st grade who are more then family to me i have people who want to see me smile and get successful in life but still life seems empty but i sure know that I'll be living a good life if i just get out of this wasteland of a hole and move forward get financial freedom and a partner and continue to make friends talk with colleagues people or neighbors or whoever you make yourself a life out of thin air and they will shower you with love it's not all about family but everyone deserves a loving family if things are bad it's unfortunate you just have to survive it and make a life for yourself out there from scratch may be one day your family will realise it and feel lonely too and will want your warm hug stay strong <3 if you need to talk about it him me up

[Sugar100]

But y my sister in law and her sisters hate me so much? I literally have only been nice and living my own life in my apartment I don't know what’s going on?

[Sugar100]

U think it’s a blessing in disguise cuz I always hated being with my brother and wife following them since I was 13 and. Now I’m 25 and my dream was always be inside my bfs life only be with his family. I don't know his family yet but the only person in my life now is my boyfriend. And I feel loved and complete at peace at moment

[Sugar100]

But like I said since I was a child I had people envy me that is why I’m
Alone no friends. Those r all women by the way , aunt cousins r women brothers wife and her family r all women that’s y I have family gone. Only men r nice to me my whole life that’s reason I have only boyfriend in my life. If my family were men they would all be inside my life at moment supprting me

[Bolty44]

That is not easy to find out the cause because i don't know anything about these people and how the interactions and past things if you have been nice all along and they just hate you for no reason then you may have something they want may be control of something may be your decision affected them somewhere unintentionally i can't really say much on this it could be anything

[Sugar100]

U think it’s a blessing in disguise tho? As only boyfriend supports me and my dream was be in his life and I longer in brotenrs wife’s life? Maybe god is blessing me little by little

[Sugar100]

I told u before since I was a child girls ENVY ME. That is why I have no friends. Since I was a little girl I had fmaily and girls friends that r girls ENVY me , nothing changed as I got older each year I met more women envy me. Only men my entire life r nice to me.

[Bolty44]

If you hated them then there must have been some leakage of that hatred and theve seen it through your actions and you've seen their hatred too so it must have been a long build up of little things arguments, disagreement, stubbornness, being free, they can also feel like they own you and you are their kid or sister who must obey you they will think it's for your own good that they are doing all that but they won't see it from your perspective

[Bolty44]

That is wrong way to think gender is not nice to you but persons are may be you've haven't lot of people in your life friends are hard to make it's not easy as you age it gets difficult because everyone already has friends and it takes years to make a friend and bond strongly why men are easy to make friend at this age is they are ready to explore probably trying to get a partner so they talk like how you'd talk to make a friend in school kind nice and senseful... women do that with men too that's why they say it's good to have a different gender bestie because you talk more openly and deeply with them... try meeting more people and you'll surely have some friends i could be one of them xD

[Sugar100]

Wtf they aren’t my sisters , I remember during covid 2 years ago my sister in law talked about again to me brother but I was living at his house during that time. in my room I made my business office and was there working all day and his wife got mad I was in my office instead of at her sisters houses daily following them like a retard. If I talked of my business one time, she would leave n ignore me. She would be bored at home no hobbies just gossip at her moms or sisters house never wanted bond with me or talk to me

[Sugar100]

I had anxiety and she would be mad I would be sick Voy don’t eat said it was in my head and I’m hallucinating. It’s sad cuz they never had had been sick in their life so they r ignorant but they will be very sick one day god will punish them. I never make fun of sick people my friend. I’m not ignorant like my family

[Sugar100]

My dream was live alone and it came true , I no longer need be following them and only with my boyfriend now.

[Sugar100]

Funny how the toxic people in my life begg for me. I only came as she desperatlynwanted me see her baby. My cuzin that is gone from my life begs for me and wants see me.  I fought her wen I was young as she began envy me & envied me so bad she said I’m her only friend that I have , in a bad way she said it, like laughing. I told her we’ll id rather have no friends that a Stupud bitch like u!!!

[Bolty44]

Seems like your sister in-law just doesn't cares about you and only lives of of drama and center of attention, someone selfish who doesn't listen to others opinions or things about them, i think she is not happy with her life she doesn't have anything to do she is could be bored who is playing victim and want's you to entertain her by attention and sorries she is sick not you this happens to a person when they get stuck in life with no progress and no new faces and when they start losing people who were in their lives now they feel ignored and worthless without having any achievements in life

[Sugar100]

Since then she begs for me to see her and misses me. ✌🏼✌🏼✌🏼 I AM HAPPY WITH THESE TOXIC PEOPLE GONE & my boyfriend begs to see me, my jobs beg to keep me, my customers from my business beg for me and new clothes, LIFE IS GOOD

[Sugar100]

Soon my brother will beg for me and it’ll be too late I’m already gone forever ! 😁✌🏼✌🏼

[Bolty44]

You took a hard and a great decision to live with your partner it's gonna make your life easy and positive meet new people do your business dream about kids have hobbies eat good food and everything will be fine❤️

[Bolty44]

What ever she said its true but the other way around she said it to herself... If she doesn't loves you then she is addicted to you and what more of your attention for her to feel important and loved it's selfishness and emotional blackmail and you are not alone you are my friend now and you got a boyfriend too why are you worried?

[Bolty44]

That's all good even you know you've took good decision and doing great at work and love life I'm happy for you but don't punish your brother for what she did and people change you should forgive if they do and genuinely care for you... and don't stop trusting people there are still some good one's who will care keep searching and meeting people

[Bolty44]

Tysm for mho would love to help you more❤️

[nomandik]

Give me 10 positive thoughts about yourself and the comment down below I want to hear 10 good things that you have to say about yourself

[dustybiker]

Toxic feedback from family needs to be considered differently from others. What is the true cause?

Does it come from their own unhappieness? Are they always like that (just their personality) Are they being hurtful or simply telling the truth?

I like to think of people this way.. I only allow beneficial energies into my family bubble. That doesn’t always mean pleasant, but it has to be helpful. Everyone else is just toxic and can keep back. I don’t need it. It just drags us down.

[Sugar100]

Wuts seen as they r all cutt out from my life? I think it’s good & I can live my life now in peace

[Sugar100]

They r like catty mean girls that envy me so much. That’s y they talk shit due to envy. I have done nothing wrong I am just nice only that’s it. I don’t even know what’s going on as I live alone I’m busy working 3 jobs or with boyfriend I’m in my own world just working or cleaning my home

[dustybiker]

Sounds like you have a nice and peaceful home life. That is most important.

[Sugar100]

Yea but y they treat me bad I don’t understand y my sister in law washes my brothers mind with bad things of me 😓

[dustybiker]

Sounds like it’s her personality. It’s your brothers choice to believe the lies or see the truth for himself.

[Sugar100]

Her personality to be mean? Y she can talk to her sisters daily and she wants my brother hate his mom and sister only be with her family? Are your sister in laws like that?

[Sugar100]

Y she hates me if I have done nothing bad to her?

[dustybiker]

No. But I hardly see mine so it keeps it respectful.

[Sugar100]

That’s messed up tho like why invite me just to ignore me? Everyone was talking of their own lives on the table & I felt so stupid. Not even my brother was talking to me he acted like I didn’t exist and talked to her sisters instead about thier life.

[Sugar100]

My sister in law prob told brother to not talk to me n stuffed his head with lies and bad things of me

[Sugar100]

How do u handle being alone no family?

[weysally]

what the hell is toxic,