Why are my parents preaching me about not getting drunk if they did the same too?

[Anonymous]

Overall I'm a serious, college girl. I only go to parties twice a month and yes a couple of friends and I get drunk.

My parents kept preaching about how you can have fun without getting drunk, how getting wasted is a bad example, how my reputation can be ruined, that's not how ladies act, etc. They did more wild things when they were young themselves. Why preach about something you did?

My mom obviously wasn't my dad's first. He was a former party guy and he started settling down in his late 20's. My mother used to get drunk with friends too. So what's wrong with having fun and getting drunk 2x a month?

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Why all of the sudden, they switch to ''serious, omg don't do that'' folks. Talk about hypocrisy. This might sound harsh but I did once replied ''You guys did the same thing too at my age, actually you guys did more''.

[kylee2437]

Your parents are absolutely correct. A high percentage of rape goes on in college dorms because overly drunk women get taken advantage of. Can’t forget about DUI. Stuff that happens when you are wasted can absolutely ruin your life forever. Your parents are just looking out for you and want you to know that you do not need to fall into peer pressure of getting wasted to have fun. Wait until you get further into college and see how much trouble the wasted people really do get into.

[LazerBean]

Because they were too stupid to realize their mistakes when they were your age, and now they're not. If someone who is in jail for robbing banks tells you to not rob banks, the fact that he himself did it doesn't make him wrong. It's a fact that going out and getting drunk is stupid, regardless of who says it.

[Summeroflove]

Because they don’t want you to make the mistakes as you did. It’s like my parents used to cuss around us but wouldn’t let me or my sister cuss.



Set the example. It’s not good to get drunk. Having a few drinks is one thing. Being drunk is another

[slatyb]

How drunk do you get? Is it really fun to drink that much? I drink, sometimes several in an evening, but never get drunk. If I have to drive, which is most of the time, I make sure I'm clear-headed when it's time to go.

[Asker]

Very drunk that it's obvious and I'm sloppy when walking and probably slurry on conversation.

[HighValue]

They don't want you to make the same mistakes they did. It is hypocritical, but at the same time they are trying to help you to have a better life.

[Danny_dan92]

People are hypocrites

[kylee2437]

No they aren’t. They don’t want to see their daughter raped, killed , harmed , or in jail. Don’t condone this behavior

[Danny_dan92]

I’m speaking strictly on the basis of people telling others what to do when they do the same. Not this exact topic directly

[kylee2437]

Right, but her parents have probably been there and done that and have seen things they don’t want their daughter going through.

[Danny_dan92]

I guess. I don't know.

This is one of those examples where if you want people to hold your advice seriously. You should be an example by doing the same.

Thus, in this case. Not drink

[kylee2437]

Her parents aren’t implying that she shouldn’t drink, they are implying that drinking excessively is not okay and I think that is a very valid and acceptable parenting point. A 30 year old man trying to pin a young girl against her parents reasonable parenting is no bueno

[Danny_dan92]

No point in me continuing this debate honestly

[kylee2437]

It’s not a debate, it’s me calling you out on your immaturity for your age.

[Danny_dan92]

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