She won’t believe me?

[Anonymous]

Hi all

I was at a big party for my friend recently and was harassed most the night by a guy who was a friend of a friend. He waited outside over an hour for me to leave and whilst inside he put his hand down my back to my butt. He stared at me and I was 100% uncomfortable the entire night. My ‘best friend’ basically laughs at is. I didn’t find it funny I am friend a long time with her I just thought she’d support me more. I was thinking about it all week I was so traumatised by this guy.
Am I expecting too much for her to believe me? She was saying ‘he did that to everyone HAHA

He didn’t do half as much to everyone what he did to me. Everyone was so drunk I was the only one not drunk.
what should I do I can’t shake her reaction !

[Izzy_3991]

Wow! How old is this friend of yours? 16?
She's being very immature. She doesn't seem to understand how creepy his behaviour was. There's a difference between being friendly and being creepy. I think he crossed the line for sure.
Tbh I totally wouldn’t count her as a friend, she didn't believe you and tried to brush it off. She doesn't seem to care about your feelings or your safety.

[Asker]

This is why I am upset if it was the other around I would go mad at this guy.
My feelings were legit I felt unsafe and uncomfortable! She does not care at all I know she is saying to people that I am making a big deal out of it I can’t get this out of my mind it’s
Made me think of her different

[Izzy_3991]

Of course. It would make you think differently of her. She isn't being a very good friend. And you are right, you would go ape crap on the guy if the shoe was on the other foot.
Legit, I would leave the friendship. I honestly couldn't be around someone who doesn't have my back, especially as women. We need to stay together for our safety.

[Guy13]

I think the best thing that you can do is to put some distance between you two. Communicate sparingly until you feel comfortable again. Too much too quick, whether friend or girlfriend, after trauma is not good. Text Yes/No and do not feel bad about it. She ought to respect your need for some space. Time will probably straighten this out...

[Chazmatazz269]

You don’t get to control people. She’s free to react however she sees fit. If you’re facing a friendship “deal breaker”, then put some distance between you.