Why she is having doubts with me?

[Anonymous]

We’ve been seeing each other since November. Made it official this month. Today she asked me if she can improve in our relationship. I told her that what she’s going through (stressed about work, her kids and trying to find a new place to move to) she doing great! She got upset by that answer. She doesn’t believe in my response. She said that it triggered her because of her past. Now she feels empty and having doubts. I tried to reassure her that she does not need to doubt our relationship. She then said that I have a heart of gold and will not give up on us.

Is it within herself or that she’s upset with me? How can I make not have doubt with m me?

[WaterIsland]

There is a chance she doesn’t feel like you were genuine because you seemed like she is perfect. And no one is perfect. So it’s an unrealistic thing to say.


However, you answered her question honestly. She needs to accept that. Or follow up with more questions. Our past experiences do influence us. So I understand that she might be uncomfortable with your answer because of insecurity. But logically, she has to take a step back and separate the past from present.


I’d continue to talk to her. Continue to be honest. Continue to do the best you can. That’s all you can do. She has to work through her own stuff. And besides being your, there isn’t much else you can do.

[spartan55]

Don't you love it when you start getting questions like that? 🙄

[Asker]

Nope lol