We started off living together with my brother when I was 20. My brother (non-biological, he is publicly known to have been adopted when he was born although we've grown up 100% like actual brother and sister. Sorry I didn't know the word for this, brother in law?) is about the same age as me. It began as a way to budget for my apartment. As time passed, I managed to buy an own property which I didn't move into, but rented it out (to students). I thought I would save up for furniture, equipment etc so that I can also properly renovate the place.
Time passed, I got the financial means to get the renovation done. Yet I just enjoy the company with him and I am worried that if I move out I'll have a much more boring life. I think I will move out if I have a serious relationship or if I mean to move in with someone. I don't want to live on my own. Last but not least, in the meantime this is also a financial income if I keep the apartment rented. We get on very well with each other. I don't miss privacy and I don't think he does either (we never had own rooms in our lives even as kids anyway). The other day I asked him if he honestly wished to have the place for his very own or if he preferred that I move out, but he said "It is great that I (me, Dana) am there and likes my company. Sometimes we do get heavy arguments but in reality I love him very much, and in one way or another I could not live without him. I we know everything about each other and have no taboos by any means.
When I get on dates I tell this to them, nobody complained, plus, I would not like anyone to "accidentally" slowly move all their belongings to my place. Maybe I am just too paranoid. He does not want any girl to settle to his place either so there's no collision.
So all in all, the reasons for me to stay with my brother is: emotional wellbeing and financial considerations. I don't have any pressures on me or preference to have a partner, family or children.
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As an adoptee, I can tell you he is not your brother in law. He is legally your full brother. And by law, you cannot legally be seperated like blood siblings. It is permanent.
Secondly, I really wish I had your relationship with my brother. It seems like you two fill a healthy void in each other's lives, meaning with your set up, you'll probably find "the one". You won't settle for a guy that treats you poorly, and neither will he. I didn't have any male security, so I ran after as many guys as I could because I had come to terms with being molested. He has your back and you have his. Awesome security in a non-sexual way (which people seem to underrate).
If you two are happy and financially and emotionally stable, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. Be happy. It is common in other cultures to not move out from the parents at all. You guys are two independent adults. You are doing just fine 👌
Thanks for your input. Stay strong 💙! I sent a message to you.