I am almost 30 years old and my parents still control my life. Is this normal? (Page 2)
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You're 30 something and why are you still living in your parents house. I can understand if you hit a rough patch in your life. Most people I know your age were living on their own or had roommates. You might be going back to school I have no idea. Parents do have a tendency to think they got to control their children's lives. Just ask them to give respect as they ask for respect for you.
If you're still living with them in the home they provide, there is a tendency they'll do that.
Well I hope you are saving up. And paying them some cash monthly. It is weird that they control your life. I understand if they would want you to do your part at home. But making decisions for you is very bizzare. When you save up enough you can buy a place and move out. I only moved out at like 33 years old. Bought a condo. But my parents were not control freaks. They had many opinions , also wanted me to stay until I got married lol. But I did not want to get married.
My dear, they will do this for the rest of your life. I moved when I was 26 and it was the best thing I’ve ever done to myself. I’m 32 now but every time I go home they still do the same and treat me like a teenager.
If you can't control your own life at this late date, then you probably never will. Controlling parents ( controlling, not just being helpful). . . who needs them?
Some parents are toxic and simply just don't want you to grow up because they fear their own lives will then have no meaning. If I were you I would get out ASAP.
Not in my time, but times have changed. As an adult, if you don’t like their influence you have not only the right but also the responsibility to make the necessary changes.
Only if you allow it to be normal. You have control over it, by choosing to move out and be independent, then they won't have that kind of control.
It's not healthy. Your parents should accept you're an adult and allowed to make your own choices and decision etc , despite living with them.
That must be very difficult for you
It really depends on what you mean. You’re 30 and obviously you are now responsible over your own life though your parents still care for you and are still in your life. If they act like they still decide for you and the decisions you make then that’s not ok and you should set boundaries. Maybe share your thoughts with them and hear from their side.
She's 26 she still has time to get out. She means she meant she's "almost 30" but it's definitely not cool or okay to try to control her.
I am 36, live away from my parents. They still try and tell me how to manage my life. They claim they know all about me despite living on my own for longer than i lived with them.
That would not be good for me and, when I'm 30 or even near 30, it will never happen. However, it is good for you.
If you live under their roof you must abide by their rules, not sure they like the burden of you.
The real problem you have to think about is that you are 30 years old and still living with your parents.
I also live with my parents. There are a few cons. Like not being able to acknowledge the opposite gender in general, because boys can get you pregnant. Smh.
From my own experience, my sisters and female friends, I'd say most mothers are bossy AF long after you're an adult.
It's good for a lady to be with her parents until marriage. It's for your spiritual protection.
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DoctorSex
It’s not normal at all. However, you are responsible for the way your parents treat you. You should be more firm
You are 26. You are living under their roof. It's their rules. If you want to be butt hurt about it, why don't you do the thang, the normal thang? Get your own roof.
I'm sure if I still lived at home, my mom would be doing the same thing. I left at 24 because my mother was being too controlling. So I don't think it's that weird but if you're not currently financially independent, becoming so would be a good step