My parents have little to no interest in me or my life and don’t seem to know anything about who I really am as a person, why?

[Anonymous]

Growing up, People would usually refer to me as the spoiled child or that I must be the apple of my parents eye, being the youngest and only girl… not at all accurate. Instead my middle brother was the favourite all our lives, he was great at sport, intelligent, goodlooking and outgoing so my mother loved him. My other brother was less loved but he had the brains and good looks just minus the rest, so he was favoured second as a result. Although I am intelligent, also considered quite attractive and studying computer software development in UNI my parents don’t see this, or any of my accomplishments. I’m often ignored when I come home after being away at uni for weeks at a time, they spend the dinner conversations talking about my bothers work and what they are doing (they live at home). I am doing my exams in my final year of uni, I expressed to them how stressed I was about them the last time I was home, they didn’t say much or try to advise me. I’m now in the middle of these exams and have yet to receive a single text or call from my parents wishing me luck on my exams. I have been talking to them both about work as I work part time for my dads company and have said lines like “I can’t do a meeting at that time as I have an exam then” and he will respond with okay, but no mention of the exam or Goodluck on it. I feel like I am the forgotten child and nothing I ever do will be enough to outshine my brothers. I feel like they don’t even know my real personality, I’ve been told by friends it’s like I have to pretend to be a different person when I’m around my parents. I don’t feel like they would accept my real personality. I’m really desensitised to the issue now, I feel like I’m on my own and have felt on my own for a long time and I’m good at it, I do everything for myself and don’t rely on them for anything, but I would love to feel like if I really needed them, they would actually be there, and the sad part is I can’t say they would for sure.

[exitseven]

Sometimes parents do this without even realizing it. Every one of your kids are different and have different talents. I have two sons and a daughter. Oddly enough it is my daughter that is most like me. I love them all equally but not all in the same way. I am sure your parents love you just as much as your brothers but it might be harder for them to interact with them or maybe they feel that your brothers need more attention.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[Guy13]

All people are self-absorbed…not hist your parents. Sometimes one has to engage on their own.

[boggboss]

Talk to them about it