Was it wrong for me to lie to my mom about being on bth cntrl? If so how else could I have handled it?

[Anonymous]

I 26F have become more sexual since moving out and decided to start birth control 3 months ago. I have not told my parents since they believe that there are dire religious consequences for having sex and I don’t want them worried about me or to have that discussion with them. I have kept it to myself very well but today had a follow up appointment to make sure my pill was a good fit. We ordered a new pack and I was on my way. The pharmacy I usually used was out though and I had already missed two days taking them where I was out. I had another pharmacy fill it and upon checkout was asked to complete my phone number for verification. Except it was my mom‘s phone number. The pharmacist assured me that it was just for verification and she wouldn’t be notified. However, she called me less than an hour later asking if I had been to the doctor and gotten a prescription. The system not only texted, but called her about the order, being ready and picked up. I didn’t know what to say, but I knew she wouldn’t buy the “I wanted to regulate my periods and take precautions against assault” line, so I said no. She asked more than once an I assured her I hadn’t been to a doctor or gotten a prescription. Told her later I called the pharmacy and they verified someone had used an old number, it was nothing to worry about, and they probably just hadn’t been to Walgreens in a long time. On the verge of tears she told me how glad she was bc she thought someone was trying to scam me or steal my identity. Because she thinks I wouldn’t lie to her, she believed what I said and everything was good. Except I feel awful. I want her to be able to trust me and on top of that I don't know how I’d ever feel if she found my meds now. I just honestly felt like it was my business and didn’t see any other way out other than exposing myself. Was I wrong an what could have been done differently? Am I a dishonest person she can’t trust now I don't know

[Anonymous]

You should just have used your own phone number to begin with. You’re 26 years old, well into adulthood, why would you use your moms phone number. And you clearly knew it was because you had the pharmiacist assure you it was just for verification. And verification, how did you not understand that they would text her number. That’s usually how verification happens. It’s non of her business if you’re on birth control or not though. If you don’t want her to know you don’t need to tell but if you eanted to be honest you could have just said yes mom, I know how you feel about birth control but I don’t share those beliefs and it’s really nothing I’m going to discuss further. If the verifications didn’t say what medication you bought you could have just told her you got something else like antibiotics for UTI or something. But whatever that’s too late now anyway.

[collie22]

Two things , that was your private stuff.. also maybe you should of came clean even if your mom over stepped her boundaries. Try not to stress , try to move on and do things the right ways. I'm not in your shoes . Do what you think is right

[slatyb]

Why did you have to tell her anything? You are an adult and don't have to share everything with your mother, particularly not your sex life.

[ArrowheadSW]

Well, it is your private business. She sounds ultra-conservative! Can you change that phone number at the pharmacy?

[Asker]

She is an I grew up that way but have been exploring. I definitely changed it, even called them after to confirm.

[ArrowheadSW]

What kind of religion does she belong to, to where she is so conservative? Just curious. Usually moms seem to be more open to the idea that their daughters are becoming interested in sex, compared to the dads. The dads don't want to see their daughters in that way. LOL

[Asker]

The easiest way to explain it is I’m the only child in a ministers family and she homeschool me all 12 grades, so strong attachment on top of religious upbringing. They literally would mean well, are just concerned about my spiritual state. Although I don't know that either of them would be surprised I didn’t have my v card they probably don’t know how much it’s been and that it’s a thing for me

[ArrowheadSW]

Ah OK. Since you were homeschooled for 12 years, were you able to have many friends in spite of not going to a regular school?

[gorydetails]

At 26 it's time for you to put your big girl panties on and talk to your parents honestly.

[LazerBean]

Not more wrong than sleeping around.

[MadAndBankrupt]

What religion do your parents follow?