F here (from India), I am in a long distance relationship with a nice guy (about 3 years older than me), we are related by our mother's sides (we second cousins to be precise, yet we are legally allowed to marry and date as we are not closely related, we have verified this with a lawyer before) and everything is going well, he is the best I can ever ask for, he helps me with my studies, supports me in my every decision, cares about me when I am sick, gives me advices, listens to what I say and most important things is that he loves me very much. He has even told his mother about us and she didn't have any problem with us. My mother likes him as a guy, but I haven't told her what we have, she only knows we talk and share our problem with each other and helps me study.
Last month when he called my mother just to check how we are and talk a bit, my mother got some idea about us and later confronted me by asking me if there is something going on between us, I lied to her out of instict and felt very bad after that.
Yet he is understanding and said that we don't have to worry about such things now and we should focus on studies and career as we have plenty of time in future before we ask our parents about us and things got settled for that time.
Today I was showing pictures of my friend and his boyfriend to my mother when she suddenly asked "do you have such relationship with someone?" and had to lie to her again, after which I felt really bad again, I don't like lying to my mother but I can not tell her the truth because I have lied to her in the past and telling the truth now will break her trust badly.
I don't know what to do as telling lies to my mother breaks my heart and I would not be able to tell her the truth or reveal anything about us as it will break her trust badly now.
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