What qualities did you get after each breakup?

[marish01]

Did you become more generous, caring, selfless, patient, kind, calm, compasionate, charismatic and enthusiastic?

Or?

You became the worst version of you

[PatriceONeal]

It's not an either or. The fact is if women have a large amount of past partners, she is logically more likely to exhibit qualities of a person with emotional baggage. People don't typically improve themselves after breakups, especially women. This takes accountability and accountability is female kryptonite. It's usually a woman saying she was "abused" and now she needs to "heal". Abuse in womenese means "its never my fault, I don't want to take blame for my actions" and "healing" means she will sleep woth a lot of men and narrow her search parameters even further. Instead of lowering her expectations in the men she dates be uase It's her high standards that got her in bad relationships on the first place. By only ever chasing Chad.

[Alex8736]

it comes down to how things ended. My theory is what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. My worst break up was with someone cheating behind my back which at first made me resentful at that moment but remained single by choice for 6 months. other than that i remained loyal with future girlfriend's and didn't allow one bad apple ruin the bunch

[Mangospacho]

The quality that I didn’t want to waste my time with someone who was unsure if they wanted to be with me and constantly trying to convince them to stay. It paid off.

[AdithyaR]

I don't know if it's good or worse but I've come to accept that nobody would genuinely want to be with me romantically so I've been able to quit the dating game entirely. Now I'm free of the false hope.

[cth96190]

I became more cynical, more suspicious and less willing to believe anything that a woman said.
Eventually, female behaviour black pilled me and my journey to the Dark Side was complete.

[NathanDavis]

more experienced... of course

and, happier

[AmeerX]

Well, I am more calm now, I feel less stressed after rejections. I don't like to make it my responsibility.

[randyzuchows]

I got trust issues now and maybe I am not good enough

[AviatorTom]

After each breakup, I didn't change much.

[serious]

I have always been single. Hence not applicable.

[Jennz6]

I get better sex

[loveslongnails]

I got wiser!

[marish01]

And decided that it is wise to date a woman who gets fucked by others?

And what about the qualities that I listed?

[loveslongnails]

If you grow in wisdom, you grow in all of those areas, except possibly charisma.

" And decided that it is wise to date a woman who gets fucked by others?"
You just can't understand people who don't share your moral position, or your own views about sex, so you constantly get triggered by them. Why do you even care if my SO was not a virgin when we got together, or what our current lifestyle is? Does it hurt you?

[marish01]

Not a virgin is not my point. Lol she is too far from it. It's the sharing part that disgusts me.
It doesn't hurt me.

What about enthusiasm? Do breakups make you more enthusiastic?

[loveslongnails]

"Far from it: --- How do you know what her body count was before we met? Another of your judgmental remarks, but that's what I've come to expect. News flash - if you have sex once, you're not a virgin. Does having sex twice means you're 2 times "farther" from being a virgin. LOL

Breakups had short term negative effects when I didn't want to, and positive effects when I wanted to. The enthusiasm to date again eventually returned after negative experiences.

[marish01]

I mean it is not just non virginity polygamy that disgusts me

[marish01]

That enthusiasm is not as intense as when you've never dated and have been dreaming about it.

[loveslongnails]

That's simply your subjective opinion, isn't it? Dreaming is the right word because you've never done it and don't know what it's like. Some people might get very enthusiastic about dating again after breaking up with a mismatched person. Others just get discouraged.

If you've never dated, or never done any particular thing, you might experience butterflies or nervousness, AND enthusiasm, but the first two are different from the third.

[marish01]

I would say nervousness is not butterflies effect.
I can't be nervous. I am the one who rejected and the one who will accept the dating offer.
I have no emotional baggage plus I am very enthusiastic about dating and it's to the point of dreaming.
People who dated a lot, hurt a lot can't experience enthusiasm as much as I can.

[loveslongnails]

I just love how you decide what OTHER people can feel compared to you. LOL As if you have the ability to be in someone else's head and feel what they feel.

" I have no emotional baggage" - this is the Quote of the Day. I can't put enough funny face emoji's on the screen. Virtually your entire "modus operandi" is via your emotions, and the fact that you think you DO NOT operate that way, is emotional baggage red flag #1.

[marish01]

You can pretend people who have had breakups and heartbreaks are enthusiastic like me but that is not going to add enthusiasm. That's not how it works. It should be genuine not through delusion.
And by emotional baggage I meant getting hurt and bitter because of breakups.