"My parents kept me safe from danger and threats. I felt safe when I was with them." Do you agree or disagree with this statement?

[Still-alive]

Did you parents or caregivers make you feel safe?

By 'safe' i mean physically, emotionally, mentally. all around safe

Strongly agree both parents/caregivers made me feel very safe

Agree my parents made me feel safe for the most part

Disagree. my parents didn't make me feel safe much

Strongly disagree. my parents didn't make me feel safe

partly agree and disagree because one parent/caregiver made me feel safe the other didn't

I only had one parent/caregiver and they made me feel safe

I only had one parent/caregiver and they didn't make me feel safe

[Apulu_Imback]

Yes, I always felt safe around my parents but there was a phase when I was scared of mom, mentally. Scared of her reaction if I played the piano for 2 minutes more, scared for her reaction if she knew that I wrote 10 poems a day when I could have worked on a science chapter. But that was when I was new to adolescence age and yeah, almost everyone is sort of beefy towards their mom or dad that time lol.

[Still-alive]

Your mom always sounded super strict to me.

[Apulu_Imback]

She's way better than other Asian parents though, she keeps her slippers to herself lol.

[itsalyssaagain]

My parents did the best they can but I grew around a lot of toxic family members and family friends. I wish they were better at creating boundaries because I have a lot of trauma around people now. I grew up basically feeling like shit and there was something wrong with me.

[itsalyssaagain]

I only came to realise this now as I’ve gotten older by the way! Imagine this entire time I just thought I was disliked and there was something wrong with me

[Still-alive]

Sorry to hear it. Did your parents know how toxic those family members or friends were too? Did they say or do anything about them?

[itsalyssaagain]

Thanks! My parents knew they were toxic but stuck around for some weird reason lol. They’ve cut them off now but the damages done (to me at least cause I was a child!)

There was a lot of jealousy and bullying involved I guess. Only when I got older I realised this wasn’t the norm lol

[Sparkie460]

My parents made me feel like I had a leash on. My dad was super strict because he was in the military for 25 years. I felt safe but had to do sketchy things behind their backs to be able to live a normal life

[Sparkie460]

Thanks for the mho

[MementoMori777]

As a kid yea but then I started involving myself with the wrong crowd and believed a firearm was necessary and since then my mind never changed.

[Potteplante]

No, I grew up around alcohol, abuse and neglect. My mother did try her hardest, with what she had and I love that woman to death but she didn't give me the best start on life. My dad got himself a new wife with kids and I became a guest in their family - always aware that my father didn't think I was worthy of being his child.

[melanieeeB]

Personally I disagree, my mom gave her best but I was born into danger lol

[Still-alive]

Iraq right? I think you said?

[melanieeeB]

What?

[Still-alive]

You aren't from there originally? Or the Middle East?

[melanieeeB]

Ohh well I was born in Germany, my father was turkish and my mom is kurdish

[Still-alive]

Turkish yes sorry, that’s right

[melanieeeB]

I would never ever call myself a turk tho
I prefer kurdish

[melanieeeB]

Or german but never turk

[Lyndsielee666]

Absolutely the fuck not. Karmas a bitch though and it’ll get them eventually

[Still-alive]

probably inappropriate but you made me think of this scene in Ace Ventura lol https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GfVB2S5-oOQ

[midnightmoon05]

Pretty much on point. My parents are notperfect but they did their best to give us the basic needs.

the rest… we had to learn the hard way. We all turn out very successful.

[menina]

I strongly disagree. My parents never made me feel safe, on the contrary they made me feel as unsafe as possible.

[Paris13]

... And Loved. Now they are Both Gone... xxoo

[PBandJ_Nerd]

My parents always made sure I was safe and around them.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I believe that no matter how two parents can make one feel safe, there are always cases where a child needs extra safety.

[FinalFantasyBro]

Considering I haven't been in a horrible situation like dealing drugs or prostituting myself for money is my parents done really great on me

[bolverk]

I knew was safe while growing up, but I was left with enough room to make my own mistakes and learn from them.

[llorando]

Personally I agree with this statement. I say personal as not everyone is going to have the same experience.

[Nikki1989]

My parents abandoned me when I was 12 so that should answer your question.

[ThomasDavid1989]

Agreed. I've yet to find a woman I feel safe with, like I do them

[noohair]

My Dad was a WWII bomber piolet. Whenever I traveled with him on a plane, I felt very safe.

[LoveBuggy]

Yes, not having parents means your life will be a living hell on this earth.

[Quackthulu2]

Nope, pretty horrible people actually.

[Still-alive]

Sorry to hear it

[Miristheiss]

I agree, I had a good mom and dad.

[Pink2000]

Agree 100% I always felt safe with my dad.

[SnowedIn]

I mostly felt safe.

[LazerBean]

Strongly agree.