So everytime her grandparents have something going on. Like they are in the hospital for any reason what so ever, be it serious or not serious. She wants my girlfriend to drop everything and basically spend days with them. She's even told her to miss work before to do this and she's complied. It's just getting to a point where it's becoming too much for me. I understand if it's life threatening or they are in serious condition. However, it's even when they are stable and nothing is necessarily wrong. Like the doctors aren't even worried about them pulling through or dying.
Just today on her day off she went to see her grandma in the hospital. She probably got there around eleven or so. Her mom wants her to stay until six. Her grandmother is ok and there's no real risk of her dying. I just don't understand it. My girlfriend and I see it the same way. Go visit for sure, let them know you care about them. However, what is staying all day going to do? We aren't doctors. Us being there isn't going to heal them. Any advice ok what I should do?
Plus I feel like they don't care about her wellbeing or what she needs/wants. It's always all about them and their wants. She gets overwhelmed by this stuff and needs a distraction/break.
If I'm in the wrong, that's fine. My family has always handled things like I said. Visit but there's nothing you can accomplish by being there all day.
Just today on her day off she went to see her grandma in the hospital. She probably got there around eleven or so. Her mom wants her to stay until six. Her grandmother is ok and there's no real risk of her dying. I just don't understand it. My girlfriend and I see it the same way. Go visit for sure, let them know you care about them. However, what is staying all day going to do? We aren't doctors. Us being there isn't going to heal them. Any advice ok what I should do?
Plus I feel like they don't care about her wellbeing or what she needs/wants. It's always all about them and their wants. She gets overwhelmed by this stuff and needs a distraction/break.
If I'm in the wrong, that's fine. My family has always handled things like I said. Visit but there's nothing you can accomplish by being there all day.
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Yes. It doesn't matter if you can heal them or 'accomplish' anything. Being in the hospital sucks as it is. It's worse when all the people you love leave you there alone all the time, bored and depressed. Someone being there is always a lift to your spirit and makes you feel loved and cared about. More families should be like hers.
So you should stay all day long even if their illness isn't going to kill them? Plus it takes a huge toll on her. She ends up closing her self off to everyone when this happens and does nothing but complain about every little thing. Again, I understand visiting for some time. Don't understand staying there for days on end.
You can tell by your girlfriend how you feel and see if there's any change. Them you can decide whether you are willing to stay in the relationship.
I get visiting family and especially staying there for a long time if they are unsure if they will pull through or high risk things. However, none of it ever really has. Also, it takes a huge chunk out of her mental health; my girlfriends. I just don't think they are fair to her with this. I tell her to stand up for herself. However, she just complies to keep the peace. We are adults, we have lives, and we have to pay bills.