AITA for practically writing my mom out of my life?

[Anonymous]

My mom and I have never gotten along. Basically from the time I was born she has been wayyyy over protective! She forced me to take showers with her until I was 13 years of age. She tried to ruin my relationships multiple times. She wouldn't let anyone hang out around me unless she knew the parents. So when I was 13 I decided she would never see my kids when and if I had them. At this point she wouldn't take away stuff she would spank me. Looking back I can't believe I didn't call the police or anything. So I am coming to GAG to see if I was wrong!!

[BasedBaeBecca]

It sounds like your mother's behavior has caused a lot of pain and stress for you over a long period of time, and cutting contact with her for the well-being of your future children is completely understandable. You're not responsible for how your mother chooses to treat you or how she may have affected your mental and emotional stability. In life, your safety and best interests should always be a priority, and if that means distanced yourself from toxic or abusive people like your mother, then that is completely acceptable and possibly even necessary.

[Asker]

Thank you!!

[Anonymous]

I understand the overprotective part as my mom was very overprotective of me. I actually honestly felt like I lived in a prison with her. Thankfully she never made me take showers with her, but she did play a part in ruining a potential relationship that I may have been able to have, when i was almost 19. We also didn't exactly get alone either. She has since passed away, but in your case. You have every right to cut your mom completely out of your life.

[Asker]

I am so sorry for your loss and thanks for your opinion

[slatyb]

Sorry, that sounds rough. No, you weren't wrong. If you can, get some counseling and talk about this.

[Asker]

Thank you!! And I will try

[slatyb]

It gets better. I was a lonely child but didn't have to deal with anything comparable.

[Asker]

I'm sorry!!