How do I stop my friend from asking to come over?

[Anonymous]

I've been friends with her for over 14years and I have no issue with her visiting, the issue I have is that she brings her 2 children aged 10 and 6, who she claims are mis-behaved due to their autism, but I think she is slack with her parenting too. I find myself making all kinds of excuses to prevent her coming over with her kids , mainly because they are loud and naughty but also because her 6 year old girl poops herself so anything she sits on is tainted with the smell of poo. I have 3 kids myself so have no issues with kids, just hers. Recently she has asked everyday to come over and im just not in the mood to be cleaning my sofas everytime they leave! I offer to go there and last min she says no we will come to you and I have no excuse , how do I stop her asking all the time, or should I just be honest? I Feel bad telling her the real reason!

[Anonymous]

Next time if you offer to go to hers and she tries to say she will come to yours, tell her nah I really want to get out of the house for the day. Or, you can speak up and be honest with her about how you are feeling.

[Asker]

Thank you! :) I will try this next time! I do want to be honest with her because its stressing me out lying and making excuses, I just know she will take offence and I wouldn't want to lose a friend over it.. she's just not getting the hints haha

[Opinion Owner]

Sometimes you have to be honest and if it cost you her friendship in the process than I say she was never a friend in the first place because she should be understanding of where you are coming from