So I'm friends with dad and mom on fb. They've been divorced for over 10 years. My moms an alcholic, and one time she was drunk, and she said she misses my dad. I guess these upset because my dad use to drink, and my mom is upset that he couldnt get sober when they were together. Anyways, my dad posted a photo of him and his girlfriend. I gave it a like. Was that wrong?
Your dad can do what he likes now, he is entitled to post photos on his facebook, with him and his new girlfriend, after been divorced 10 years now. Don't begrudge your dad from moving on and been happy. If your mum can't do the same, and still holding on to the past, that is your mums problem, and she need to take responsibility for her own life.
Your dad is not responsible for your happiness or mums happiness. If you and your mum don't want to look at his posts, then either unfriend him or or unfollow his post on facebook. It's probably best you tell him, that you will speak to him and message each other on the phone and keep in contact in person, as its upsetting your mum.
If you and him want to see pictures of each other and what you are up to, then you can always send photos on whatsapp to you personally, so your mum can't see them.
You and your dad, will have talk about it and how deal with the issue, so doesn't involve upsetting your mum.
what I would do, is speak to your dad, ask him nicely, please adjust his setting on facebook with regards to your mum seeing him and new girlfriend. Don't say, please stop posting pictures of him and his girlfriend together on facebook, that's an unreasonable request. He is entitled to do that.
You have play it, that everyone in the family wins, and no one gets hurt or upset over the issue.
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Not at all , sorry to hear your parents are divorced but 10 years is a long time, so it’s normal that your Dad is with someone else and moved on , as for your Mom she should of moved on from your Dad as well
No. You did nothing wrong.
Your mother is a grown ass woman. She can deal with her emotions like an adult and she can choose not to look at your FB.
You're allowed to use your social media as you like, no matter how your mother feels. Again, she is in charge of her own emotions.
If she does get angry or bitter, that's on her. She has to resolve those feelings on her own and she can't blame you for them.
its nice that u care about your mums feelings so much but u shouldn't feel like u have to take a side. u should be able to support both even if its a small way like liking a photo
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You're not responsible for your trainwreck of a mother or her trainwreck of opinions. Like what you like. She's far too old to be coddled.
It’s OK to like your dad‘s photo with his new girlfriend in the end you should love your mom and your dad and be happy that they’re happy and if the relationship they had was not good, then it was better to move on if they tried their best to solve what their problems were so if I were you and I’m not, but I’ve been in the situation five times in my lifetime treat the people that you are around with respect be nice and for the most part you will get that back from good people and the more people In your life, that care about you and love you the better you can never have enough people that love you
They've been divorced for 10 years. If you mum has issues with your dad moving on, she needs more help.
I don't want to go as far as saying you were wrong but this is the sort of situation it's best to just stay out of. Personally, I would've just left it.
It's good to feel good about your dad's life. Nice he has a girlfriend that you like.
You did absolutely nothing wrong. You have to support both parents and they both need to recognize that.
You are entitled to have a positive relationship with your Dad and his girlfriend.
A little. Depends why you did it
You should probably mind your own business.
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