Do you think I'm handling this situation correctly or incorrectly? ?

[Anonymous]

About 6 months ago, a close male friend of mine inexplicably became angry and insulted me in front of others. It was particularly embarrassing as it happened in front of a group of people. Of course, I got offended and ended our relationship with him. However, I eventually forgave him because he sincerely apologized, and our strained relationship was affecting our mutual friends as well, for instance, when we made plans to meet, it caused discomfort for everyone if two people at the table were not on good terms.

Anyway, I forgave him, but I will never be the same with him. Also, sometimes I remind him of his mistake as a joke and embarrass him. For example, when he gets angry about something, I say, 'I think he'll start insulting soon.' Do you think I'm being weird, or does he deserve this?

[ManOnFire]

You have a case here that can be repaired and put in the past. He did act like a dick towards you, but you said he apologized later and was sincere about it. That's more than what I got my female friend who had been a complete ass and gave a begrudging apology because she knew she was wrong.

I don't know exactly how the tensions between you guys' other friends should affect the two of you directly, but I don't think it should. If those friends don't talk to your other friends that's their problem and their business, but as far as you and him go that shouldn't be destroying your bond.

My advice is to forgive him and put it in the past because he sincerely said sorry, which isn't something a lot of people do, but if he behaves in a similar way again you should just tell him he's doing it again and you feel like you're not sure how long you two will last because of it.

[Anonymous]

You have such a wonderful heart that you forgive him...
You saw maturity... you're perfect.