Why do people have to move away? Why can’t things stay the same?

[AmazonChick171]

One of my best friends is moving across the country because of a new job opportunity and she’s very excited but sad because she’s leaving out hometown. I don’t want her to leave. At first I told her whatever choice she makes I’ll understand and when she told me I was disappointed. I was like, “Aw man! I was hoping you would stay here!” She told me, “I thought you would understand.” And then I said, “And you believed me? No I’m not happy that you’re moving away! I’m not! But I am happy for you and I do want you to be happy. You’re my best friend and you’re the most trustworthy friends I’ve ever have.”

I have another friend that’s moving on to another job and I’m not happy that they’re leaving but I am happy for them. I still live in the sand house with my parents but I work and go to school. Why can’t things be the way it used to be. It’s been six years since I’ve graduated high school.

[sage2021]

Sorry to say, but your life will never be the same again and it's sad too.

Friends are so hard to come by anymore. Seems like people are all moving away to some other State and leaving good friends behind.

A only have a couple of friends left and they both live far away from me. We text, but it's not the same.

With all my other friends as time went by, text's were fewer and fewer until really we just quit texting.

I don't know what to say other than stay close by text, etc. of course you can try to meet for a small vacation somewhere? Send pictures. 🤷🏼‍♀️

[AmazonChick171]

It isn’t fair. Why does life have to be so brutally cruel.

[Surely]

Part of being a great friend is to encourage others to better themselves and you stand behind and support them. No matter how much it hurts to not be able to do the things that you normally do with them.
You could just say that you will miss them terribly. Don’t try to influence their decision. But you should also be glad that they are maybe making a move of a lifetime.
With cellphones, FaceTime and all of the other apps. You can still reach out to them and stay in touch on a regular basis.
Much better than the snail mail when I was younger.
Plus you can always take vacation and go visit.
Wish you well!

[Surely]

@AmazonChick171. Thank you for the MHO.
Hope that you can stay in touch with your friend.

[renodnol32]

Its just a part of life sadly. I've moved. So many people have moved away from both places i reside in. And at this age it just feels like a troublesome ordeal to go out and make new friends. My family was already spread apart nationwide anyways. So yea that just life.

[AmazonChick171]

Yeah I guess. It’s sad but everyone deserves to be happy.

[renodnol32]

Yes. The big question is how to be happy? :s

[Anonymous]

because if life never changed, we wouldn't grow as people. this is a good opportunity to let her grow as a person and a professional. you can also visit and she can always visit. life happens. this is just what it does.

it also just sounds like this is a you issue. it seems like you're not happy that everyone is moving on and you are emotionally stunted (not being rude, just evaluating). maybe look for more opportunities if you aren't happy with your life the way it is turning out.

[exitseven]

My best friend mover 3 years ago and we did not even get to say goodbye because of covid. I have not seen him since. We email once in a while but ti is not the same.
Time marches on I guess.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Relatable...
It's good to have at least one friend who sticks around.

[Anonymous]

Why do they have to stay somewhere they don't want to be because of your feelings?

[love_conquers_lust]

The only constant in the universe is change

[caramelcake37]

some things are hard to control

[AmazonChick171]

Yeah it is

[Anonymous]

Are you based in the us or outside the US?