If the kids father died or something tragic like that, then maybe I could see an exception, but I don't want anybody's baby daddy drama, and it's just weird to be with someone with children with another guy.
My best friend and I were at a diner where our friend worked at like 2am, and while we were chatting, this hot guy slid into our booth. BOLD! but he was hot (and we all know hot guys can literally do anything the normal man cannot). He immediately starts flirting with my friend. He's telling her how gorgeous she looks, he's introducing himself to me, he's bigging himself up, and then he says so smooth, would she be interested in a date with him...before she could answer, he goes....and I just want to be upfront, I have 4 kids.
If my friend could have done a spit take! He picked THE wrong one. SHE hates kids, and would never date a man with kids. Have you ever seen the light go out of someone's eyes so quickly. Even for me, I would be hard pressed. My aunt dated a man with one teenage girl once, and she was a total b---h to her for no reason no matter how hard my aunt tried with her (she and the boyfriend eventually broke up, and the girl was part of that reason). I had a former boss that was married to man with baby mama drama every time they had to drop off the kids for his shared custody. It's a lot and I think it's rare that you can just slip into that relationship with a man with kids and not have to deal with exes, and their ex's boyfriends, and what rights you have over "their kids," and is he still hung up with the ex because they literally shared a life together...I'd rather not.
It's not that bad to be honest it should be easy he shouldn't push the drama on her if him and his ex have issues there's no reason she should have to be dragged in to it and im sorry but I wouldn't bring my kids around her for at least the first year of dating to make sure she's a good fit for my self and the kids u shouldn't bring and rip out people in kids life especially ones who parents have separated there already so lost and confused as to whay and how they want to be with and everything that goes on to that situation
Only if they want more kids or aren't taking care of the one (s) they already have. I have a one kid per person rule max. Just results in the best resources per kid. Other than all of that, I love kids. They are more than welcome to tag along on dates and be around.
I dated a single dad, and his kid was an absolutely joy to be around. His parenting skills were a bit rough and a turn off though. I could tell he was doing the best he knew how though. Another dad had a completely rotten kid and just let the kid do anything he wanted. Another turn off.
I've also seen parents leave their kids out of relationships completely unless it becomes serious. That's not a bad idea as well. Kids don't have to be part of a relationship that's not serious.
I mean if I can choose children versus no children with everything else being the same I'd pick someone without children, but it hasn't been a deal-breaker for me and being with a single mother for a few years gave me a taste of what being a dad is like. Turns out I was better at it than I knew so that is useful to know when children come up in my next relationship.
So is having a child a downside? Yeah, but it was a downside I can life with. If she is a special girl that has the traits I value (Her being a good mother is one of them) I don't mind if she already has a child, multiple is probably to much though then there is no space for one of my own.
That depends on what I'm wanting them for. If it's just casual, then why would I care one bit about their drama? I'm married, so the only thing I would want another woman for would be purely physical. If it was to be with another woman, then I would be bothered by the possibility of cheating, being drawn into further drama myself if I knock her up and she knows who I am.
It's a no win game for guys if it goes past being purely physical. Just as women typically don't want guys with kids, because they're going to put more time and money into their kids then they are her.
Opinion
26Opinion
personally, yes. i would never be with someone who already has kids from a previous relationship.
No actually I think they enhanced our relationship. I loved having the little boys over and we would bake cookies and other things like a nice big roast with all the fixings.
I had a little boy too. Their mom abandoned them, just like my son was abandoned by his Dad. So we had a lot of healing and learning how to trust again.
He asked me to marry him, but he was an alcoholic - he was a happy drunk. Then he came from a family of a different religion than me and I was already tired of his mom trying to turn me into a Jahovas Witness. So I said no thank you.
Sorry it made me laugh, that his mom wanted to turn you into Jahovas Witness. They are so pushy 😂
My ex fiancé and I planned to have our first child when I’d be 27.
We broke up before then.
It taught me that life doesn’t always end up the way we planned and with every upcoming year, the number of childless men fall slim, as I don’t have romantic interest in younger men because I find them immature.
So, I am trying to be realistic.
If they want to have more children, I’d be interested in him, because I want to have children of my own someday.
I’d still love them as my own and try my best to be a good mom, of course not replacing their previous mom, but still be a nurturing, loving mom and build my own relationships with them. Every kid deserves a loving home… I actually find single parents attractive and admirable to be able to hold it all down on their own.
If I love that person, I don't care whether their children are mine biologically or not. If I want to make the relationship work, I'll try to make my relationship with the children work too.
It might be a little bit harder to adjust to, especially if you're younger, but I wouldn't blow it off only because of them being a parent.
I wouldn't want that personally. But that's because I'm not mentally capable to have kids so them having kids probably would not work out good for us as a couple. Plus, if something happened to my partner then what am I suppose to do with the kid, since I can't take care of them or anything? Wouldn't end on a good note. Better for that person to find a partner that would love to be a mom instead.
It's the same way how PB&J 🥪 I for one don't date a woman if she's dated like X other guys, I for one would feel like just another number whether she had offspring or not, if she was a hot gorgeous woman or not. I have standards hahaha as sounds you do also for a man, hooray us "applause"
At my age it doesn't matter because her kids would be adults. But for young guys it's a mistake to get with a woman who has kids. Unless, maybe you both have kids from different people because then when she makes her life all about her kids you're doing the same thing to her & it balances out. And when her kids treat you like crap at some point it won't bother you since you aren't deluded into thinking they will treat you fairly because you were good to them.
Yes, looking on dating sites, there are SOOOO many divorced women. The bible doesn't just say not not be unequally yoked with nonbelievers, but one can't remarry unless the spouse has died or realizes they married Adolf Hitler or Helena Petrovna Blavatsky. It says in the bible, you can get divorced, but if that lady wants to marry again, it's that same john doe you married before.
Being in my late 30s I've had to accept that the next guy I date might have kids.
Men in their 40s would probably have had a kid with someone else by now.
I don't have kids & don't want any of my own. That's why I date older men because even though they've had a kid with someone else, they don't want anymore.
I'll give their current child guidance and everything but they won't be having any children from me.
date me !
I'm with the Opinion Poster, If the woman is a single parent through the death of her husband from an accident or illness, I'd be willing to to give dating a go, but if she is a single mother because she did not take birth control seriously or let herself be 'persuaded' by a guy to have sex without a condom, then it would be a solid 'No', I would not want to deal with the emotional backwash.
I find it a turn off as I don't want to raise children that aren't my own and come between a family and be the third wheel. My brother is dating a girl with three children and he already has four children of his own from two previous relationships. My nephew's can't stand the girlfriends children as they are little and loud.
Having children, no, but the specifics might matter. I know a girl who has been rejected and called trash because she has a child. The child is her niece whom she took in after her brother and sister-in-law were killed in accident, so like I said the speficis might matter.
The above situation or a widow, yes. Divorced, possibly depending upon the specifics. Stereotypical never married on assistance with five kids from four different guys, no.
Personally yes. For me its a turn-off because I don't want any children. So yeah I would never date a girl who has children.
I don't feel well equipped enough to take care of a kid and I believe this world is already f*cked up, so it feels like a crime to put another human upon this world like my parents did to us. And I also feel like I have to explore the world and pursue my dreams rather than having children..
Yes!!! It’s more than a turn off really. Whether you and the child mother are together or not, you will still always have that connection. If someone wants to see the child or hang out with them you will have to go to the other person. So it’s never over between y’all
I wouldn't want to get involved into something like that. He might expect me to take care of them. I don't even want children of my own, let alone raise somebody else's. Thanks I will pass.
If you like kids in general I think the younger the kids are the better off you are. If they are older they will hate you and judge you because you aren’t related by blood. My twin brother dated a girl who had kids and they were too young to understand the father figure role at the time but he had kids with her as well and now they have a younger brother. Both my twin bother and her are married now and they share a great life together.
For me though I personally find it a turn off. I’m his opposite. If someone is willing to have kids with someone and then that person leaves them then that just shows that sex was their their only desire from the start. It’s not right and a lot of the time especially single virgin men like me don’t want an additional responsibility for a child that isn’t theirs.
I used to when I was younger. I was not willing to date anyone with kids but now that I am older it is kind of inevitable since most people my age have kids.
Depends. Shit happens. Sometimes things don't work out and people separate. But if he's got 5 kids with 6 baby mama's, that's a not for me
I probably wouldn't mind, as long as there was no baby daddy drama.. And as long as it's not more than two at most.. But, as long as I was mentally and financially ready I wouldn't mind it..
If its multiple children, yes. One is fine. If i was like 40+ years old, i doubt i’d care. But rn i care
If she just had a baby and is already broken up with the guy, yes. Other than that, it's unrealistic for me to expect women to not have kids if they are anywhere near my age or even 10 years younger
You are retarded if that's what you're believing.
Also, you're assuming THEY want to be with something like you in the first place.
Yea single moms bring a lot of baggage with them.
That wouldn’t bother me if I really liked them
Just made this mistake and never again! Stay away from these people. Only drama!
at my age yes, if i was in my 40s probably not
No if i was single I'd date a single mom but probably not a single dad
At my age: no.
I only find it disturbing if I'm requested to compensate the (financial) shortcomings of the bloke/s before me.
Yes. I suppose it has biological and socioeconomic reasons
No, I am not that insecure, judgmental or petty.
A single parent might as well be a hemorrhaging leper with dick AIDS
As a guy nothing is going to make me question my future with a woman more than her having children from some other guy.
Yup. Not raising someone else's kids. I made my money to raise my kids.
Generally yes. Especially at my age but under certain circumstances it would definitely be understandable and accepted.
Depends, but I wouldn't be in a serious longterm relationship with someone who already has children
Only if you want to have your own children with this person, and they cannot afford more.
99.98 percent, it's unbelievable 😭😭😭😭😂😂😂😂 with cries and LOLs
I raised my kids as a single dad, I know how it is and how hard single mothers have it. I would have no problem with it at all.
My answer is mostly no. But who knows. I really have to fall for her. And hope only 1 kid. The more they have the more distance I'd keep lol.
I would in that there will always be a woman lingering from his past and that could taint your relationship
Oh, baggage. I don't get much into that. Can be trouble with the other like the baby's mama.
They may be a wonderful person but facts remain, it's a major complication financially, logistically, and emotionally.
Not a turn off but an issue if they don't have their priorities right
It absolutely is, I am not taking care of some other dude's kid because I am not a cuck. Baby mommas are only good for recreational use.
Yes, because your best case scenario is her kids are going to hate you.
Dude just stay single cause at 30-35 you wound very immature and insecure. No one has time for that grow up
No, I married a woman with two children, and I love my stepsons and they love me right back.
I agree 100% unless it’s a death or divorce
Yes, I like having sex with moms 😂
You can also add your opinion below!
Holidays 
Girl's Behavior 
Guy's Behavior 
Flirting 
Dating 
Relationships 
Fashion & Beauty 
Health & Fitness 
Marriage & Weddings 
Shopping & Gifts 
Technology & Internet 
Break Up & Divorce 
Education & Career 
Entertainment & Arts 
Family & Friends 
Food & Beverage 
Hobbies & Leisure 
Other 
Religion & Spirituality 
Society & Politics 
Sports 
Travel 
Trending & News 
