@On_cloud_wine I saw your comment about him having money. Now I see her real motivation. She is a gold digger. If stays stay in this relationship not only is she not being true to herself but she is staying in the relationship for all the wrong reasons. I would not call it silly I would call it STUPID. She thought she would change his mind... STUPID! She can't change his mind. If he has money he is likely smart enough to not let some bimbo gold digger trap him. They should break up. Good for him.
Yes, it's absolutely IDIOTIC to do that.
If a guy is telling you that he doesn't want kids, or that he doesn't want to get married, BELIEVE HIM, because 99.98% of the time, he's NOT going to change his mind.
A lot of women have this mental illness where they think they're going to change a man in some profound or significant way so that he'll be more like what she wants, and in the history of the world, that's actually happened maybe a dozen times, out of BILLIONS of attempts. You have to be a true idiot to play those odds.
It took her 8 years to leave? If I ended up in a relationship with somebody that long and they didn’t have the same values as me, I’d consider maybe companionship is probably more important than those values. You don’t just stick with somebody for 8 years like that without a reason
there’s no guarantee that you can convince them to have a kid with you so my advice is just to not waste your time if it’s something you really want from your partner.
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I don't think it's silly to date for a little while, probably less than a year, because people can change their minds, much longer than that and it gets pretty silly. If you love and care for them a lot more than you want kids, then that's a choice for you to make, but if you still really want kids and they haven't changed their mind then there isn't much you can do.
Well "silly" in wishful thinking for sure. And when feelings come into the picture, if often clouds our logical thinking. You can hope someone will change their mind, and it's always a possibility, but with something like that, it's not very likely they will. In that example, hopefully she's learned from that experience.
I think if you get in a a relationship with someone who doesn't want to have kids, you have to accept that you won't have kids with them. My boyfriend made it clear from the beginning that he didn't want kids, so I made the choice to be with him and not have kids. If they made their intentions clear, you should respect that
very silly. if you have to even think "i'll change their mind", you're dating them for manipulation purposes.
It really depends. I'd take it on a case by case basis.
But you shouldn't be having unprotected sex with them while they are of that opinion.
Don't try to trap anyone or pressure them into changing their mind before they're ready.
Give him time to get used to the idea, and remind him that making them is half the fun.
🤦🏽♀️ I'm starting to think something is mentally wrong with the chicks on here like come on now
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