Is it wrong of me to still cry sometimes over my brother (sister) moving out and becoming transgender? it’s been almost a year since she’s moved?

[Anonymous]

I see her like every month but we used to be so close and i recently submerged my old vehicle in a lake and she let me borrow her old red car and it’s been really hard to drive it around with all the memories attached to it.. it feels like she died. It still hurts me that she’s gone, can anyone help? Should I be over this now or can grief just come in waves like this. I’m just sobbing in her old car and it’s really hard to drive it around because it reminds me of when we were close

[CheeseMonster]

Most siblings will grow more distant after moving out, but that doesn't mean they died. You can still keep up a good relationship with them—especially if you meet every month. I don't think it's wrong to be upset, but you should do something about it if it really means this much to you. Try and schedule a few more meetups, maybe even once a week, and interact with them via text or social media more often. They don't seem closed off to you, so what's stopping the relationship from being close again like it used to be?

[Jay-_-]

I don't know how to help, but to answer the question it is not wrong to cry about it, you do need to get over tho (not saying this rudely saying this out of a good place) because it's only going to slow you down or depress you even more and one more thing what does her being trans have anything to do?

[rosemilk]

that's gotta be hard. i think a therapist could help you best to cope with that big change in your life about your siblings decision.

but that's just life and how it goes. siblings move out. and you will too some day. we're each to have our own lives. but at least you see each other every month, keep that up. don't let that become longer between visits.

don't be sad about the memories tho. those should stay happy memories, keep them that way.

[menina]

It's normal and totally fine what you're feeling. It seems that you need help to move on, a good therapist could help you. If you can find one.

Also, remember that your sister still loves you.

[laly520]

its fine to feel sad n cry just make sure to move on
seek therapy if u can't do it on ur own, time heals

[Asker]

I think I’ve moved on it’s just hard sometimes and I think it is for her as well

[laly520]

yes it is
but it gets better so dw much about it

[Anonymous]

No, but you need to get over it and move on with your life.

[Asker]

It’s still a little hard see