Why do some of my peers only care about marriage, church and different things now?

[Anonymous]

I mean there’s nothing wrong with that, but ever since some of my peers from high school are married and in relationships now they’ve changed. My friend I meet in college is now married, has a daughter isn’t interested in the things we use to do like is listen to Avril Lavigne, One Direction in some of the artist we used to listen too. She now only listens to Christian music and gave up secular music. I mean fine her life but she changed. We used to go out partying every night, well every other weekend, and meet guys in all that before she met her husband. Her daughter is so adorable and now going to be a big sister. She is 29 and her husband is 36. I asked her what’s she’s doing for Easter. She said, church, Easter and family dinner. I’m going to my sisters house for Easter dinner and I may go out to the bar with my best friend.
I am single, just turned 25 and single. My guy friend who is 26 is married to his girl of four years and expecting now. My best friend and I do go party and she has a boyfriend. Why can’t things be the way it used to be when we were teenagers and college years?

[Anonymous]

Well I don’t want to say all of that is because they’re marrying because I know women who still listen to Avril Lavigne, etc. Some of it may be due to maturity, like if they stopped going out partying on the weekends like they used to. It could also be the circle they’re in now. Most times people hang w people who are similar. So if they’re married, have kids, etc, chances are they’re hanging out w women who are similar. Over time you just realize there’s more important things. Sometimes you just get tired of it. I used to go out drinking a lot w friends. I don’t even drink now. I’ve realized it was a waste of money, same bs every weekend, etc. I still talk to my boys but most of them like me are married w kids. Not to mention when you’re married, have children, a house, car, etc, you have a lot more responsibilities. Some even more important that yourself like your wife, husband, your kids. My “happiness” used to come from being out, parting, it was about me. Now my happiness comes from making sure my family is happy. I don’t hi k most people want to be old, by theirselves when life starts to wind down. I work in the medical field, see a lot of people, especially women coming in sick w no one by their side. It’s sad sometimes.

[V_Injector]

"We used to go out partying every night" That's what I was thinking from the very start and then you just said it for me. A woman who takes her relationship seriously isn't going to involve clubs/bars at all. I mean why would they?

Sounds like you have friends that are growing up and moving on from that "OMG what did I do last night" lifestyle. Meanwhile you're still doing the same thing and not moving on from that shit scene.

Every person I've ever seen that was in a relationship and went to the clubs/bars... cheaters and destroyed their relationships. Makes sense for those stuck in relationships that they don't respect or love having... but it makes no sense for someone that wants a happy family.

[sheikalana]

Well, people grow, change and evolve. With age you start realizing certain things and think in different ways. If you still think the same way as you used to when you were in high school than you should re-evaluate your life choices.

[Peridot25]

Because they got families now to think about. They grew out of their partying stage.

[bobby_bush_eater]

It's called growing up and being mature. Their priorities have changed and their lives are no longer just about them. Some people will still do some of those things but a lot of people will have lost interest and realigned their priorities.

Do you think parents to a young girl should be going out partying being hungover and staying out at bars instead of spending time at church, eating together and creating traditions as a family? Perhaps it's you that has some growing up to do

[HighValue]

Imagine when you are in your late 30s and 40s and have no options left for a good mate ever because of your current bad choices.

[V_Injector]

She's being that girl, that will do nothing but have fun and then hit the wall wondering where all the good men have gone.

[JacobJordan]

Because sooner or later you have to grow up if you want a good life. 80 years is a long time to be single, partying, being stupid.

[Lynx122]

That's just not how life works. You have some wiggle room in how fast you grow up bt you can't make it last for ever.

[slatyb]

They are different from you. Don't let yourself be influenced by peer pressure from them. If they disagree with your choices, find new friends.

[Jay-_-]

Because they have grown they can differentiate what should be done and what is a waste of time, they have realized that doing all those useless activities isn't getting them anywhere.

[Anonymous]

People change, it happens, but generally when they move towards religion like that it's because they didn't take the time when they were younger to develop their critical thinking skills and have been duped by rhetoric. It's unfortunate

[KrakenAttackin]

"Fat, drunk, and stupid, is no way to go through life Son".

[LazerBean]

They just grew up and now have grown up priorities

[Asker]

I guess so. I feel so left out now. I’m the only one that’s single, wants to party a lot and just live a carefree life, even though I work 40 hours a week Monday through Friday 8-4pm

[Overandunder89]

There are others like you. You just have to find them. A life of redundant domesticity doesn't exactly sound the most appealing to me either. Do you smoke?

[Twalli]

Because people grow and change.

[jahaims]

That's what cults do