If your a grown ass woman as in in her 20's can your dad force you to get a haircut?

[Anonymous]

My dad is trying to force me to get a haircut just because I'm living under his roof is he allowed to do that when I'm grown I'm not 13 anymore so he needs to stop treating me like a child I have a baby boy now I'm a mother who loves her son

[Anonymous]

Alright that’s going too far. Some parents seem to either be too slow or sometimes never adjust to how they look at their kids as grown adults.

My own mother was beyond horrible about this herself. I moved back for a few months after college when I was trying to get a job. She was going through my drawers in my room when I was 23. She removed a bottle of preworkout workout supplements (not steroids, L-Arginine) I was using at the time and hid it from me. That was just one of many things she did. But then she went way too far with her criticism of me when I was not only fully independent and living out of the house but I actually owned my own house. It drove me to cutting off all direct communication with her but that’s another story.

Anyway he can’t “force” you to do anything. But he also isn’t forced to let you live in his house. Daughter or not he can kick you out if he wants to. Unfortunately can criticize and verbally berate you all he wants. Because as unfair as it is you are still dependent on him when you are a legal adult.

How hard would it be for you to move out? Do you have a full time job? You need an exit plan. Use this as motivation to make the money necessary so you can pay rent and move out.

[Opinion Owner]

Just read this again. Where is your son’s father?

[Asker]

I'm trying to get a job so I can move out and my son's father isn't in the picture after treating me like shit and kicking me out twice and cheating on me twice and other stuff he did to me so I couldn't take it anymore he was to toxic so I had no choice but to move back in with my parents

[Opinion Owner]

Well what’s done is done with that asshole (and why are women always getting pregnant with guys like that?). You should be going after him for child support though.

Keep looking for work. You will feel a lot better about yourself when you land a job. Your parents will respect you more too.

Sorry you are in this huge mess. I imagine this is very difficult.

[OlderAndWiser]

1. "My dad is trying to force me to get a haircut just because I'm living under his roof." So stop living in his house. Easy solution. . . . Next!

2. "is he allowed to do that when I'm grown I'm not 13 anymore" The way you have written this, you sound like you are around age 13. No, he cannot force you to cut your hair, and you can't force him to allow you to live in his house.

3. "so he needs to stop treating me like a child" Why does he NEED to do that? You want him to stop, but that doesn't mean he NEEDS to stop.

4. "I have a baby boy" You had a child out of wedlock, and you are incapable of supporting yourself and your son. This does not paint a picture of maturity!

5. You left out an extremely important detail: WHY does he want you to get your hair cut, and why are you opposed to doing it?

[menina]

This is ridiculous! You're an adult, he can't force you to do anything. It's your body, your hair, you know what to do with it.
Besides, you have a child. If you can take care of your son then you can take care of your hair. Your dad has nothing to do with it.
Leave as soon as possible.

[Asker]

I'm trying but right now I don't even have a job I've applied everywhere in town and still waiting for a job it's the summer so most high school kids are working so it's hard to get a job

[menina]

Trust me, I understand your situation. it's not easy. For now focus on finding a job, I'm sure you'll find one soon.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

No. When I got my hair cut short because I didn't want it to be long anymore, my parents didn't look at me and say "No, you cannot do that." And if I want my ears pierced, they aren't going to look at me and say I cannot do that either.

[rosemilk]

no. what part of how long your hair is affects living under his roof? i don't get that.

[hahahmm]

well, yeah... in the sense that he holds the leverage and can make the household rules. She decided it was more important to stay at home than to move out, I guess.

Personally, I don't think a female's hair should ever be cut against her will because in her mind it's part of who she is. And I encouraged relatives not to cut their teenaged daughter's hair as a punishment when they were upset with her.

[HawkPerception]

Sounds extremely toxic to me. Even if the reason was that you had a kid at age 20 and gave him something else to support that he did not sign up for, making you cut your hair to live under his roof is way too extreme. For most girls, a huge sense of their confidence and self esteem comes from their hair. To take that away from them is too much. I would never punish my daughter like that if I had a daughter.

[Finchie40]

That sounds absolutely insane as to why he would want his daughter to cut her hair? What is his reason behind it? She is best to tell him straight out , if you can’t accept me for who I am? than I am not going to accept you as my father and she is best to start making plans to get out of that house and find somewhere else to live. I’m sorry but that Dad sounds like a complete wack job in my opinion that needs some serious mental help

[DontAskMePeople]

Looks like Daddys little girl is all grown up now... It happens Soo fast 😂

Your your own woman now, your style is your style and unfortunately he's still set in his ways that your still his responsibility

In saying that though... Last thing you want to do is start a fight over this and have him kick you and your son out of home (under his roof)

Tough spot your in tbh

Hope it all works out well

[loveslongnails]

No, he can't physically force you to get a haircut; that would be assault. However, he can legally throw you and his grandson out of the house. Why a father would do such a thing is beyond my comprehension, but then again, he does sound like a real dickhead.

[ZackBan]

Maybe it's his passive aggressive way to tell you to move out.

You said so yourself, you're a grown woman with a kid.

I know it's easier said than done. But moving out would be for the best

[Noodle_fan]

I also had extremely controlling parents when i was on my twenties , my mother even go as far forcing me to wear clothes that she wants, which i think its extremely retarded.

The solution is simple , leave , get ur own place.

[Fireguy17]

I don't think so, but to some probably because you live under their roof they feel they control everything about you.
I would be willing to bet that this is not the only instance of trying to control you that you have ever had with him.

[4ngelic]

unless he's like i'll kick you out and cut off funds if you dont cut your hair, no. you have no reason to obey him

[Iron_Man]

Girls are supposed to have long hair what’s the big deal if you’re in your 20s, you don’t need to be forced to have a hair cut but if it starts getting down to your butt, that might be different

[strateguy632]

yes using words pressure n threats, no allowance credit cards nor borrowing car.

[SugarSugarplum]

You want more autonomy? Move out and make your own choices. Grown women have been known to do that.

[EmmaMary]

Congratulations on winning a Troll of the day award.

[SotiCoto]

He could probably forcefully hold you down and cut it off... but I'm pretty sure that is illegal.

[Anonymous]

Yes. You are obviously shedding. A grown ass woman don't sponge off her parents

[Asker]

I did move out but my baby daddy was an asshole and cheated on me twice and kicked me out twice I had no choice but to move back in with my parents and I'm trying to get a job so I can move out

[DrPepper12]

This is totally extreme. In almost all cases i say his house, his rules but i can't support this.

[hisstarrr]

No that's wrong and kinda like abusive in a way.

[Tomisworthless]

Grown ass women acting like a independent h0re still eating sleeping shitting at daddies home

[msc545]

What sort of sadist demands something like this?

[Kingofkings1992]

Well, why don’t you take your grown ass and move out?

[Kaneki05]

No they shouldn't nor even teens.

[LazerBean]

If you're living in his house, then probably yeah.

[GeminiDiamond]

I guess I'm moving out! Bye dad!

[Alex-Snow]

Not a chance... you are an adult

[shortster]

No, but he can kick you out.

[Asker]

My mom won't let him do that because she's not gonna put me and my son on the streets

[shortster]

Well then he can't use the threat of eviction to coerce you into it.

[Anonymous]

If you are so grown up, move out.

[Anonymous]

Well you're allowed to leave.

[Anonymous]

Yes he is!
Now do as you're told!

[Danny_dan92]

That’s wrong

[noohair]

Move out

[paradox03]

Just Wow