Should couples merge their social circles or leave them separate?

[HawkPerception]

Merge

Separate

[DishLady]

Both… They’re bound to have people who mesh well w both of them and people who get in everyone’s nerves. They don’t have to invite EVERYONE to EVERYTHING. Ultimately a few people drop off the friends list and the ones remaining are the ones who don’t mind hearing about the woes and amazing aspects of coupledom.

[delsworld]

It is very beneficial for each party in the relationship to have a life outside of it. Individualism is important and easily lost if suddenly everything in one's life is shared with one's partner.

[OlderAndWiser]

I didn’t get married with the idea of my wife and I leading completely separate lives, but it doesn’t bother me at all that she does things with her friends and i am not included. And she isn’t bothered by me doing things without her. But most of the time, we do things together.

[LiamJHayden]

Let it happen organically if at all. I currently have different social circles in my life. Business, which has no overlap with my other circles. Close friends, which has a little overlap with my hardcore musician friends, but not complete overlap.

[standardguy]

Of course merge. Her friends must become my friends too. A wife and her husband are an unity and must be seen so. I would be very offensive if one of her friends would dislike and block me and then she would have to remove this person from her friend list

[DizzyDesii]

I usually can't stand my guys friends and they usually can't stand mine

[HawkPerception]

I don't think that's a good thing 😅

[DizzyDesii]

It is. Just means we won't all hang out as one

[thegreenyogi]

It's a bit difficult to answer. Instinctively I'd say yes of course. But what if they don't get along? It's best to be cautious and take this one really slow.

[dustybiker2]

Merge. But be aware some people will not get on. If they care they will try.

[AviatorTom]

Merge, but not completely. Have some friends in common and some unique friends.

[handsomelad70]

Depends on the couple. Sometimes the disparate social circles will click;other times they may cause friction for the pair.

[OfMiceandMen]

I think they should keep them separate for the most part, that way if the there's ever a break-up, the friends are not caught in the middle and feel awkward about it.

[SweetJoyGirl]

Definitely separate.
If something goes down, sides will be picked. Usually the guys side…….

[HawkPerception]

If you're saying the guy's side will usually be picked, that would imply that he's probably the right one in the scenario. Friends usually pick based on who's right. Friends don't just leave you unless they think you're in the wrong

[HawkPerception]

Not good friends anyways

[SweetJoyGirl]

From an experience, both were very wrong. ^-^
So, like I was saying, separate, or the girl gets left out dry. ^-^

[SweetJoyGirl]

Here, let me tell you.

A friend of mine was not dating this guy. He knew they weren’t dating. They just told everyone they were in order for people not to ask questions.
He made all the sexual moves on her. The day she didn’t sleep with him, he broke her heart. His excuse…
“You are twerking on ______ at the party.”
Mind you, they aren’t dating and the guy she was twerking on was our gay friend. 🤡
Bro used her, played her, and dipped. Tbh, I think it was more psychological with that guy.

Another guy with another friend was really hot and cold towards her. He knew she had feelings for him, but he didn’t give a damn. He always made her anxious. Eventually she sent him a long text message, and they never spoke after that. Their mutual friend picked the guys side, which I thought was hecca stupid. 🤡

Another friend…oh, boy…
A friend slept with another friends boyfriend several times, and guess what happened? At the end, all the guys chose his side. Why?
“She tempted him.”
Ok, but he was thinking with his dick. LOL
No one told him to drive to her house. 😂
I didn’t pick sides on this one. They were both in the wrong. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[Dongie]

You gotta keep'em separated.

Merge a person at a time.

[dragoblack]

Introduce and let them pick and choose who they wish to befriend

[Fedora_Tipper]

In my opinion, if you have friends when you're in a relationship then the friends will be stealing too much of your time, so get rid of them. *tips fedora*

[CieloAzul]

It depends on several factors, no fix rule.