Physical Contact?

[Anonymous]

I’m not gonna get into how we met cause that’s a long weird story but I'm a guy and i met this girl about a year and a half ago that has gone through some trauma and due to this she can’t stand being touched or touching anybody and while I’m not the most touchy feely person I have had a hard time adjusting to having a friend that’s a girl that doesn’t hug me or lean on me or hold my hand or even get close to me when we’re laying down watching a movie cause thats what im used to and I really enjoy that from women even if it’s strictly platonic. That’s how all my female friends have always been and my close friends growing up were all very open and we all had no problem being open with each other. It makes me feel really distant from her and don’t get me wrong I respect her need to abide by these defense mechanisms that keep her safe and I’ll never do anything to jeopardize that or make her feel like she can’t trust me cause if you don’t have trust you don’t have shit but I would be lying if I said it wasn’t really hard to deal with. We started our friendship with me liking her more than a friend and while I don’t really want that anymore I also don’t think that it’s possible for either of us to know how we really feel without ever touching the other person.

[kylee2437]

But you are in the wrong here. You are not being a true friend and are trying to break personal boundaries of hers for the sake of trying to form a deeper bond with her, and that is all the way unfair to her and shows you don’t really care about the trauma she has been through. This seems like a situation , that if she was even comfortable being more than friends, she would let you know. more or less , we don’t even know why she may not be interested in having you as a partner and if can simply come down to her not willing to have her boundaries tested because of past trauma. If you can’t respect her boundaries and have issues with why she chooses to be this way, you need to stop hanging out with her.

[DreamCrescent]

what @kylee2437 said

[Avicenna]

Both of you have to be comfortable with it. If one isn't- the other one needs to respect that.

[smurfwrangler]

spend more time with your other friends

[Anonymous]

No sex until after marriage