Sensitive when it comes to touching?

[Elaina_Rose]

Some of you know that I have never kissed anyone. When my previous boyfriends would put their arm around my shoulder or hips, I would get aroused. I remember hugging a few of them for long periods of time and being breathless. I never told them about it, though. I get turned on by touch very easily. Not only turned on, but nervous as well. When I guy touches me in a flirtatious way, my hands turn sweaty and my heart will start racing. Yes, I know some of this is normal. But is this a negative thing? I absolutely love doing it. Is it a negative thing that I’m letting that involve my relationships? How should I go about dealing with this? I’m a grown woman. I should have faced having my first kiss by now.

[NamerOfStars]

Does it affect you negatively? Does it get in the way of what you want to do? If not, what's the problem? Touch is a wonderful thing, and most of us don't get enough of it.

As to smooching- look, my first real kiss (technically, the first was in first grade, when a classmate and I wanted to see what all the fuss was about, so I don't count it) was botched- the two of us bounced off each other's glasses. A cute little story, right? Well, after that, we adjusted our angles and went in again, and as we pulled apart, she put her hand on my shoulder and said "You're really bad at kissing". You can imagine the wonders that did for my self-esteem. Then she leaned in, looked over the top of her glasses, and with an impish grin, said "We're going to sit here and keep practicing until you get it right."

And we did, and it was awesome. If I ever make a bucket list, the first item on it will be "have her sit on your lap and kiss until all four of your legs fall asleep", so I can immediately cross it off and high-five whoever's standing next to me. I might actually do it three or four times, since it's wonderful to relive such a good memory.

So it worked out great in my case, but for most people, a first kiss is a far more prosaic affair- and that's to be expected. You will (hopefully) have a great many kisses in your life. If anxiety about the first is bothering you, I'd suggest going to people whose opinions you value and asking them, not about their first kisses, but about their *best* kisses. The ones that made them want to take up a new religion so they'd have enough gods to thank. It's a lifelong journey that gets better as you go; don't worry too much about the first step.

[Massageman]

How would you like a free massage? but seriously - - - - - -

3 Positive Health Manifestations from Touch
The benefits of physical touch, and the biological releases that come with it, go beyond social bonding and can manifest positively in your mental and physical health. Here are some major ways being open to more hugs and hand holding can increase your happiness and longevity.

Inspire positive thinking and expand trust
Known as the “feel good” hormone, oxytocin helps inspire positive thinking and maintaining an optimistic outlook on the world. The role of oxytocin for bonding also extends to helping generate feelings of compassion during interactions. This can contribute to an expansion of trust among individuals during social situations.

Reduce social anxiety and stress
Physical touch increases levels of dopamine and serotonin, two neurotransmitters that help regulate your mood as well as help your body relieve stress and anxiety. Dopamine is also known to regulate the pleasure center in your brain that is a good counter to feelings of anxiety. One study on breast cancer patients found that massage therapy in the form of stroking, stretching, and squeezing helped relax participants and increase dopamine and seratonin levels.

Boost immune system and lower blood pressure
Physical touch is known to improve the function of your immune system as well as reduce diseases such as those associated with the heart and blood. One study on women found that receiving more hugs from their partners led to lower heart rates and blood pressure.

[Daniela1982]

You are normal as to the touch part. Men are stimulated by sight, such as a girl in a short skirt or hot bikini. Women are turned on by touch and words. That is normal. But kissing is touch also, so much so that it usually leads to sex, especially passionate kissing - not the peck on the cheek you give Grandma. So you can give a quick kiss and limit it to that, nothing long and passionate of you will pretty likely wind up in bed.

[meetbadboy]

Wise Lady With Wise Words ( ╹▽╹ )

[geri_]

I'm the same with touch, like really sensitive to pretty much anything. You really need to try kissing it's amazing

[SwordShield]

I'd say that it's not a bad thing. I mean, affectionate touching between partners is a powerful thing. I often have this issue, though, I must say to you to not fret.

You may be a grown woman, but it is a great thing that you have not had your first kiss yet! Once you do face this experience, you can do so with a mature mindset.

Not having your first kiss yet is 100% not a bad thing, and just so you know, I'm not parroting any Catholic nonsense that you have to save your first kiss for your husband.

Just know I support you in your endeavors.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

That's totally normal, do it when you are ready and feel if you really want to kiss with a person you really like those feelings are the first time once very precious let loose of yourself after once or thrice it will slowly come down and you will calm down enjoy it

[Grond21]

You have physical touch as your primary love language. That is a great thing! It's part of who you are, and it's worthy of being appreciated.
And the sensitivity to getting turned on is actually attractive to me. And I suspect to many other men as well.

So not only is it not a negative, it's very much a blessing.

[Anonymous]

You haven’t been kissed? What country are you from?

You feel aroused because the oxytocin in your brain is being released from human feel. Which in relationally causes a release other different hormone: testosterone. Yes women have a small fraction of testosterone which impacts sex drive (estrogen is more complicated). THAT hormone is going to demand that your sexual organs be pleased.

Anyway I don’t know why you are a virgin at 24. Not judging. Maybe you are Muslim or Mormon or something else. But if you feel someone is the right person to do the honors you got to TELL them. Most guys are going to be hesitant on a virgin your age. We wouldn’t understand why.

[Wise4myage]

I'm the same way and I hope it never fades. You really like it so It can't be negative unless it leads to taking risky behavior in the bedroom. I say just accept it and enjoy how easily you get aroused.

[Anonymous]

You answered for yourself; it is because you are still wondering of how it would be like. And that is the best thing about being a virgin. Hope you will be able to lose it to someone whom you love, that would be an amazing feeling. Keep wondering, and enjoy while it lasts.

[Anonymous]

It's totally ok, and I will say that when I notice a girl gets that way by my touch it always turns me on. So I bet the boy your touching sees the impact his touch has it will impact him too

[SjE78]

I dated a woman a few years ago like this, and have to say what followed was 2 years of a great relationship.

[Daniela1982]

Only 2 years? Couldn't have been that great then if it ended.

[SjE78]

@Daniela1982 it ended for reasons cos my family risked her life, and to protect her and my kids as couldn't be in 2 places to do so... I walked away...

hardest choice i have made... but the one which saved her and her kids lives...

so yes until that the relationship was great... unfortunately my father is a pathological liar and extremely devious and destructive, and not many if anyone else knows what he's like truly, and despite being reported to the police on many occasions he seems to always find an alibi to get him off the hook and twist things to blame someone else

[NYCQuestions1976]

No way. It's not negative. Embrace your feelings, both physically and emotionally. 👍

[mrgspoter]

No it's good, you go this long now wait till you get someone you really want but don't go too long yeah

[wellendowedwonder]

Enjoy the heck out of it. If it gets you off that's even better. Love you pic by the way great jerking material

[GreenGold1992]

Nah, you got butterflies in your stomach, totally positive. If it makes you feel good, then no need for shame.

I like your profile pic by the way, you're incredibly beautiful.

[TheFlak38]

"I have never kissed anyone. I just gave blow jobs to maybe a hundred guys"

[magiusX26]

you are an extremely tactile person. embrace it

[soleil2666]

Can I volunteer to find out in person 💏?

[loveslongnails]

Yes, you should have. What are you waiting for?

[Elaina_Rose]

Did you read what I put? Simple physical contact affects be a lot

[Elaina_Rose]

Me a lot*

[888theGreat]

You get those little bumps?

[Crazyguy22t]

*SOULMATE*