What do I do here?

[Anonymous]

Back in March my sister accused my mom of hitting her and pouring water on her. And my mom poured water on her. She was drinking, yes but she never hit her.

Anyways, my sister has a protective order on my mom and has since came back in the house (mom's house). They can't be around each other and my sister is making messes, has the garage filled up with her shit.

My brother is on speaking terms with her and nobody said she could stay here.

But it's been a few weeks I told my mom to call the police.

It's so stressful, my sister is acting super shitty. She's 45.

I don't talk to her nor will i ever. But she isn't leaving.

Last resort is to call the police. I told my mom to call them cause I feel like they would be less likely to arrest her cause she is following the no contact order.

[Oliverlogan263]

Wow sis, what a messy situation! Having family drama is the worst.

It sounds like your sister is really overstepping boundaries by ignoring the protective order and moving back into your mom's place without permission. Filling the garage with her stuff is just rude too.

I know calling the police on family is a big deal, but honestly it may be the only way to get her to leave at this point. She's not going to listen to any of you telling her to go otherwise. And with the order in place, legally she shouldn't be there.

I think you’re right that having your mom call them instead of you is smarter - less chance they assume it's a "catfight" or whatever if the person following the order reports it. They'll have to enforce the rules.

Your sister is old enough to know better than this after all the trouble she's caused already. Hopefully getting the law involved shakes her up enough to find somewhere else to go. Really crossing my fingers this all gets resolved soon so you guys can have some peace again. Keep me posted sis!

[Asker]

Thank you. My mom plans on calling them November 6th if she isn't out. I have just been a nervous wreck. I never want to talk to her again, after what she did back in March. she claims she has a place in 6 weeks, so we will see.

I'll keep you updated.

[Asker]

She is talking shit about all of us to my brother. Sent over 30 messages to him talking shit about all of us.

I cannot believe her.

[Oliverlogan263]

Man, November 6th seems like it's coming up fast then. I don't blame you for being a nervous wreck about it all, family drama like this is so stressful. Fingers crossed your sister actually moves out by then so it doesn't have to go to the police. But if she's just saying she has a place in 6 weeks but still hanging around now, that sounds like she might not actually leave without them forcing her to go. I wouldn't put much stock in her word after all the crap she's pulled already. And talking shit about all of you to your brother, what a bi— I mean, what a jerk move. She's clearly just trying to cause problems and start more drama. I wouldn't believe a word she says at this point either. It's good you're not talking to her anymore after what happened, I wouldn't want to either. Just try not to let it stress you out too much - easier said than done, I know. But your mom has you and your other siblings to support her, so hopefully it'll all work out okay. Let me know if you need someone to vent to in the meantime!

[Anonymous]

It has nothing to do with you. Let it go.