How do I explain my depression and mental health issues to my narcissistic mom?

[DiNoOoOo]

I’m 17 and all my life I had horrible (diagnosed) depression ADHD and anxiety due to my mom and dad. I take meds for the depression but my mom can’t seem to grasp it when I try to explain it. It always turns into her scolding me and making me feel bad for having issues like that. Lately my depression spiked and I haven’t been eating or leaving my room, my hygiene is sufferin. I just can’t get up and when she questions me I can’t tell her how I because the last time I told her how I was depressed and how I was having “thoughts of sleeping forever” she made me feel bad, saying that I was calling her a bad mom and shitty person (she is). She threatened the mental hospital and forced family therapy on mewhere she almost got kicked out and cause CPS to get called since she was all up in my face. I like to think I’m articulate with my words and how I explain things but with her I can’t get a word out because she’s either victimizing or cutting me off and dismissing me.

[Anonymous]

Are you in a jurisdiction where you're already considered an adult? If so, I'd just get the hell away from them. If not, get a job now and start working towards moving out when you're 18. I moved out as a teenager and it was the best thing to ever happen to me. Not everyone has good parents. Nothing you can do about that. But you can avoid the stress by creating your own life right away. My depression and anxiety magically disappeared when I got away from my mom and step-dad. Almost like it wasn't a genuine mental illness, and was a result of my lifestyle.

[Oncewildtwiceburned]

But what did your dad do? You said you had most of these problems due to your mom and dad. I don’t see anything about your dad here, however your situation is similar to my son and daughter’s.

You can’t explain this to a sociopath, not in your position and not in any meaningful way that would ensure immediate reciprocation. Sorry.

[DiNoOoOo]

My dad physically abused me since I was 2 and kicked me out at 10 for finding my diary. He’s just as much of a narcissist as my mom

[Agape93]

Same as anyone else, but they usually can't understand or empathize. This is how I explain my empathy to people.


Say you got raped and told me. I'd emotionally respond and understand how and why you feel what you do. That's how most people's empathy works, which is something narcissistic and aspd and other disorders tend to lack.

For us, how we see it, is like how most people view their co workers car breaking down and making them a bit late. We understand it sucks, but ultimately it doesn't concern us, and may even get irritated over it.

[Agape93]

Dm me and ill help best I can

[Cutegirl06]

Unfortunately your mom being a narcissistic will never try to understand how you feel. It's all about her which is why as you said your depression comes from your parents. You need to get out of living with her she will just keep making your depression worse. Do you have an older sibling you can live with or maybe another relative? You definitely won't get better by staying in that environment. I wish you the best!!

[jahaims]

You don't. Unfortunately a narcissist won't actually carr

[jahaims]

Care*

[In_Trance]

why do you need to?