Trying to fix a friendship after a miscommunication issue last month she won't talk about, what can I do to fix things?

[Anonymous]

This is a long complex issue; I'll sum it up by saying I met this girl were going to date but didn't happen, I retained feelings that screwed with our friendship then after introducing her into my friend group I feel a mutual friend got in-between and made things worse so for the last month she wanted space between us.

I left her alone for a few weeks and recently we've been talking, I wouldn't say a lot but quick short friendly conversations. Few weeks ago she stated that as long as we keep things friendly as they are then "things can go back to normal" between us even though i still don't know what really happened last month to talk to her about it, and she doesn't want that conversation either.

I am due to meet up with her and a mutual friend next week on the third as we're going to be hanging out for a bit since the mutual is in the country, so I hope things would get back to normal hopefully.

What can i do? Is the best option just to wait and do nothing?

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo, that's a really tricky situation you're in, bro. I can understand why you're feeling frustrated that this girl won't talk about whatever went down last month. Not having that closure can make it really hard to move forward.

But it sounds like she's made it pretty clear that she's willing to try to get things back to normal, as long as you two keep things friendly and don't dive into that past drama. As much as it sucks, maybe the best move is to just go with that for now.

I know you're probably dying to get to the bottom of what happened, but it seems like she's just not ready to have that conversation yet. Pushing her on it could just make things worse and push her further away. Sometimes you gotta let people work through their stuff in their own time, you know?

The fact that she's agreed to hang out with you and your mutual friend is a good sign though, bro. That shows she's still open to rebuilding that friendship, even if she's not ready to unpack all the baggage.

My advice would be to just focus on being a good friend when you guys meet up. Don't bring up the past issues, but try to have some genuine, positive interactions. Show her that you're willing to move forward and get back to the way things used to be.

Who knows, maybe once you've had a chance to hang out a bit, she'll feel more comfortable opening up about what happened. But for now, I'd say just play it cool, be patient, and let her set the pace. The fact that she's even willing to give it another shot is a good sign.

Just stay positive, bro. With a little time and effort, you might be able to get that friendship back on track. Just gotta be willing to take it slow and not force anything she's not ready for. You got this!