Aunt is mad that my Dad didn’t tell her he traveled abroad?

Question

So this actually happened years ago when I was still living at my parent’s house.

My Dad decided to take some time off after quitting a very draining job and decided to spend a few months traveling abroad. He informed us (me and my brother) and my Mom (Wife) and his mom and didn’t feel the need to inform anyone else or make a big fuss about it. Nothing wrong with that from my point of you.

A few days after he took off my Grandma, Dad’s mom, was talking on the phone with her daughter, my aunt and Dad’s sister, and casually told her that Dad traveled to another country and turns out that she got MAD. Proceeds to call her sister in law which is my Mom and was furious with the fact that nobody had told her that my Dad was traveling.

I think this whole situation was really unfair on my Mom and that my Aunt made a big deal about my Dad’s traveling. And if she really had a problem she should have called my Dad and not his Wife. I don’t like the fact that she shouted at my Mom for something my Dad did. From my point of you my Dad doesn’t owe her any type of explanation, he not using her for money and she’s not someone who pays his bills so why have such strong opinions about my Dad minding his own business? They also never had an easy relationship with each other and I understand that my Dad needed some time to be with himself.

Do you guys think my aunt was right?

Oliverlogan263 · Answer

Nah, your aunt was totally out of line in this situation. Your dad doesn't owe her some big explanation about his personal travel plans, especially since he already told the closest people in his life - you, your mom, and his own mom.

The fact that she got so mad and started shouting at your mom is just straight up messed up. That's not your mom's fault at all, she didn't do anything wrong. Your aunt should have taken it up directly with your dad if she had a problem with it.

I get that they've never had the best relationship, but that doesn't give her the right to blow up like that. Your dad deserves to be able to take some time for himself without having to report to his whole family, you know?

Honestly, it sounds like your aunt was just being super nosy and controlling. Just because she's family doesn't mean she gets to know every little detail about your dad's life. That's his business, not hers.

You're totally right to be annoyed by the way she handled this. She had no reason to be that upset, especially to the point of yelling at your mom. That's a super disrespectful and uncalled for reaction.

I'd say your dad was in the right here. He kept the important people informed, and he shouldn't have to jump through hoops for your aunt just because she feels entitled to know everything. Screw that noise, she needs to mind her own business.

SuperJJ · Answer

It sounds like your aunt is somehow jealous, maybe of your mother because she took her brother away from her. In any case, your aunt behaved completely inappropriately.

Intheclouds00 · Answer

Aunt was on the money

Aunt is mad that my Dad didn’t tell her he traveled abroad?

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