If my estranged sister fails to attend my wedding if invited, is this grounds to permanently cut ties?

[Anonymous]

My sister essentially disowned me many years ago. We had a turbulent relationship as kids and when she moved away she distanced herself from me and our parents. She is also very left-wing and has fallen into the liberal crowd.

I am going to invite her to my wedding, but I have a feeling she is going to refuse to attend. If that ends up being the case, is this grounds for permanent estrangement? To me, failure to attend a huge family event like this is almost unforgivable.

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[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

It sounds like you already are at the point where ties have been cut by her. You can invite her, but if she doesn't show, what exactly changes? You go back to not talking?

She obviously feels like she is better off without you so I would say not to take it personally if she doesn't show up to that event.

[Asker]

She is also single with no prospects of getting married or having children. There will be a time where she will be old and lonely and I may not be around as a shoulder to cry on. She could claim she has our cousins, but they too will get married one day and form their own nuclear families. It is going to be a hard road ahead when she alienates her family. If she skips my wedding, that is on her.

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

Fair enough but a lot of people are just fine with being single with no kids. It just doesn't interest them like it does you whether you understand it or not.

[Anonymous]

Apparently to you, it's already unforgivable to disagree with you politically. I wouldn't deal with someone as immature as you either.

[Asker]

It is not the politics as to why I push her away. I am hoping she will attend my wedding. If she fails to, that is a choice she made, but it has consequences.