Genuinely, my boyfriend is my best friend. Is this what they mean by 'the dream'? Or should I expect a plot twist?

[Anonymous]

I’m 30s and have struggled to connect with people my entire life. I had a few close friends in my twenties but after a few messy breakups we lost touch and I drifted away. These days my boyfriend is my only real friend and I’ve honestly never felt happier. I’m self-sufficient, enjoy my alone time and am happy not to have a large social circle. I work from home and don’t have any close colleagues but I’m okay with that. But recently my family has started to make me feel like I’m missing out or that I’m doing myself a disservice because I don’t have more friends. They keep telling me that being so isolated is unhealthy. Is there any truth to this or am I just fine the way I am?

[ryanrhino]

Having a close circle is nice, but not required, as we're all different. Your family is seeing ways to help you through their own perspectives. Connecting is hard, but I can tell you from my experience it gets easier as you get older as you have more social interactions. It's hard to make new friends, but they're great to have. Never stop learning and that goes even more for human interactions. I have struggled my entire life with conversations and it is valuable and enviable to me, at least, to be a social butterfly.

[ryanrhino]

Thanks. I hope you find the balance we all search for.

[Lliam]

I think a partner who is your best friend is the ultimate.
My wife is my best friend ever.

Friends are fun but they come and go in your life. You can never depend on them the way you can trust a dedicated romantic partner who will have your back no matter what.

I hope you and your boyfriend wind up as happy as my wife and I. We've been married now for going on 29 years, had LOTS of fun, and built a wonderful life together as a team.

[Anonymous]

I’m the same way as you. I’ve lost touch with all my friends so I just spend my time with my boyfriend or alone. I’m completely okay with that. I do think being completely isolated is unhealthy, but as long as you have a hobby or an activity that you enjoy (without your boyfriend) - you’re all good! As long as you’re comfortable and content, that’s all that matters.

[Nikki1989]

If your partner is NOT your best friend, you better spilt up now. That is one reason some people fail at relationships. They try to make it into something it was never meant to be.

[conanbdetective]

It depends. If your boyfriend is actively preventing you from meeting people you know, then that can be an alarm. If you're genuinely enjoying your boyfriend's company, then it's okay. It is important to stay in touch with others, at the very least to let them know you're still alive.

[coachTanthony]

I would encourage you to have a best friend outside of your partner and same goes with him. When both have a good circle of friends there is no resentment involved with one having friends and the other who does not. It is much healthier.

[ProbablyClueless]

Meh... some. relationships have that vibe, others don't. I'm not sure that there's really any one singular dream scenario.

Relationships are great until they aren't. It would suck to lose your partner and best friend in one.

[genericname85]

that's absolutely normal. your partner should be your best friend also. the only difference between a best friend and a partner is the sex in my opinion.

[chiquita]

I'm sure one day you'll wake up from your dream

[carenina]

It may seem like a dream because you're alone, don't get too carried away

[DCVsMarvel2]

Never a good idea for your "s. o." to become your best friend. Breakups happen all the time. And if they stick around, are you ever really over them?

[TheSpaceGnome]

What a backwards view to have.
Your SO has to be your best friend, otherwise the relationship is doomed to fail.

[Ironic_Method]

Nah, my wife is my best friend. That's the best case scenario in my opinion.

[Sluttt]

U sound like a drama queen. No one is against you. The whole world isn't

[strateguy632]

Ignore them. You know how you feel. 👍

[WhitneySnow]

As long as you’re happy

[TheSpaceGnome]

Sounds perfect to me.

[Anonymous]

Ohhh why do u like them by the way

[Anonymous]

You're fine