My family complains that I spend every weekend with my best friend so is it bad that I haven’t seen my family in a while?

[Anonymous]

Most weekends I’m at my best friends house. They’ve been talking me to different places that I’ve never been to, doing different things and I’ve been enjoying them. My dad said that’s good I’m spending more time out of the house because I am ALWAYS sitting at home on weekends doing nothing cooped up since my mom passed away.
His girlfriend said, “I guess you’re too good for your own family how. Lol.”
I was like, “I didn’t mean that’s.” Then she said, “Girl it was a joke!!”

My sister said, “You need to light up and take a joke. Anyways I think that’s great that you’re spending more time with your friend. Going to new places and I’m glad they’re encouraging you to get our more instead of sitting in the house ALL WEEKEND! That’s not good for you. You’re lucky to have friends that want to spend a lot of time with you. Don’t push this one away like you did with your former best friends. She REALLY loves you. Do NOT hurt her. I MEAN it.
On the other hand, it sucks that you missed a lot of family gatherings because you always had plans with your friends. Next time just come over and bring your friends with you.” My best friend asked me about next weekend already if I wanted to go to this new spot that she wants to take me too. I agreed to it since there’s no plans next week. I wanted to get my hair done that next weekend. I guess I’ll just do it the weekend after. My family don’t really plan a lot of things much like we used to. My aunt said I don’t call to do things much anymore and most of our families are doing their own thing with their own families now.
I just found out right now that my family is having a get together Sunday and Monday of next weekend which is Memorial Day but I already made plans with my friend. That’s ANOTHER family gathering I’m going to miss.
My friend and I are autistic. She’s outgoing and I’m a homebody.

[Anonymous]

Do what you want but it wouldn’t hurt to take one weekend away from your friend. It’s not healthy to make your world revolve around one person.

[Asker]

Yeah you’re right but the thing is we almost never have anything going on on weekends and nobody really plans anything much anymore. Even if I want to have a weekend to myself, she begs me to come over and she doesn’t have much friends anymore. I just want a weekend to myself

[Opinion Owner]

Your weekends don’t belong to her, they just don’t. It’s great that you’ve made a friend you can try new experiences with and who is consistent, but she needs to respect that you have a life outside of her. You have other people who would also like to spend time with you, she needs to understand that too.

[Opinion Owner]

I think she would understand that you made plans with her without knowing your family wants you at something important. If she’s really your friend she will understand.

[In_Trance]

If they're complaining about it it must be bad

[Asker]

It sounds like it is. Now I’m going to miss another family get together because we had already made plans. Their family doesn’t contact them anymore