Why are people telling me to let go of my late mother?

[Anonymous]

In December it will be two years since my mom passed and I still refuse to let go. I still can’t accept it. My family keep me that I need to let go and love on. Emmy siblings get quite when I talk about my grief once in a while. Nobody answers anymore and my moms friends don’t call to check up on us anymore. Some people are meaner to us not that she’s gone. My dad said I need to let go and my mom is dead and she isn’t coming back so let go already!
People tell me to get my ass up out of the bed and go on. I dream about me flying up to heaven and my best friend called me and said, “Wake your ass up! Lazy ass.” I know she’s joking but it hurts. I left my job because my coworkers ignored me and avoided me when I was going though a rough time with my mom’s death. I left my job three months after she passed. Nobody reached out and asked where I am. My sister bluntly said, “They don’t care about you. Coworkers and staff only care about doing their job, their lives, make money and go home. Reality is nobody cares about our death of our mother.”

Damn harsh much…

I like my new job better. Being a care provider for a special needs child.

[Danny_dan92]

I mean it isn’t healthy to let the passing of a loved one consume you… so people telling you to “let go” they don’t mean it in a way where you forget about her. Rather you move on like a normal person would after the loss of a relative.




This is part of life to lose your parents. My mom had a very close bond with her mom. But she didn’t let her passing consume her. She eventually accepted reality for what it was

[Mariogirl09]

Honestly its probably because no one has that type of empathy ( I think thats the word) at your job also no one's lost their mother

[WhitneySnow]

They don’t understand grief