An older family member who I’ve met twice tends to force herself on me and treats me like her therapist how can I get rid of her?

[Anonymous]

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She also wants to move to my country because she seems to have this impression we are best buds and hangout all the time. I’m worried about my freedom as she tends to be clingy as she tries to text me 24/7 she is also 46 with no partner or kids and trying to lump into my life and take away all my free time tbh i feel creeped out

[slatyb]

She's obviously very lonely but that's not your problem to solve. You can be polite but don't have to engage in extended conversation. You can make any excuse at all to end it.

[Asker]

I’ve completely blocked surely she will get the hint now

[slatyb]

Oh, online? That's much easier than at family gatherings. You just reply slowly.

[Asker]

I found it I did the slow reply thing she would send angry texts if I didn’t answer constantly

[andreasderjuengere]

Soak her with gasoline, and set her on fire?

[AviatorTom]

It's okay to say NO! Ignore her texts and stay away from her.

[Asker]

My dad gave her my address which is not good he doesn’t realise how nuts she is as he hasn’t really met her

[boggboss]

What answer are u looking for u have to set boundaries and stick to them u are in control of how u respond not her

[Asker]

I hope she doesn’t come to my town and hunt me down trying to reconnect with against my will

[boggboss]

If she tries to reconnect then tell her u want space

[Asker]

She also has other family members that don’t give her the time or day because she said when she was planning a uk visit she had a hard time getting a hold of people to plan something

[boggboss]

So why are u not able to do the same thing

[Alwayreckles93]

No sympathy at all from your part. You should be thankful you at least have a loyal friend. Maybe you want a back stabbing b*** ass a friend. You are evil!

[Asker]

Harassing me 24/7 then getting pissy when I don’t respond because I’m either at work or studying isn’t really a nice person

[Alwayreckles93]

Asker maybe she has past childhood trauma. Family can be useless backstabbing douchie.

[Alwayreckles93]

Tell you what if you are not a Christian ok cuter off that is a typical move from people in the world. If you are a Christian used that opportunity to get her to come to your Christianity church.

[Staximus]

You have to establish boundaries

[Asker]

She is persistent because she knows I’m much younger than her

[Staximus]

You can't let people have their way when their way affects your peace of mind. She's probably a lonely person and needs friends. Tell her to join a club like a book, hiking, knitting, bicycle or dune kind if club where they meet up and do stuff. Tell her to take a cooking class or something, make an to find friends nearby

[Asker]

She also seemed to have a hard time getting plans in place for her trip with her family in the uk she booked it a year ago and still didn’t have plans in place 1 week before her arrival I just wonder why she has so many family members that avoid or completely stopped talking to her

[In_Trance]

Stop interacting with this family member

[Alwayreckles93]

No what she must do is have some sympathy and be a friend. Wow we really are living in end times.

[Asker]

@Alwayreckles93 she doesn’t have a good reputation in the family because she is horrible when you get to know her but it’s too long to explain on this site the full story pal

[Alwayreckles93]

Asker ok go on my comment and tell me the full story. If I was you I would take her to my local church. What she needs is diliverance and Jesus.