Is it okay to just buy most of my friends a cake every year, for their birthdays; and scorched almonds in a jar each Christmas?

[MissSunshine2]

I’m unemployed on the disability pension for Autism, unless/until I find a job. Which I’m studying to get, at tafe/community college. If I get the job as a teacher’s aide, I’ll be able to rent a modest apartment.

Anyway, that’s then. Both then and now, I’ll have limited money to go around. As much as I love treating people, it’s put me in debt, to make sure my family and all my friends have enough nice things. I promised myself that I’d cut back, so I can start saving for rent, food, socialising and old age. I have fourteen friends to shop for, every year, so my psychologist suggested store bought cakes per person. Thanks for any suggestions.

Updates

4 mo

Supermarket store bought cakes, I meant to say.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

While I imagine most folks would be very happy with a store bought cake, what would you think about making it yourself? The ingredients would be pretty cheap and could last you through several birthdays

[Nikki1989]

Sure thing. Sharing is caring.

[WindAtMyBack]

Your psychologist knows you better than anyone here. Does your psychologist know your financial situation? I don't think your psychologist means you harm.

[MissSunshine2]

Yes, she knows my financial situation

[WindAtMyBack]

Your family and friends know your situation also. I'm sure they would not want you to go in debt to buy them gifts.

Can you make something for them?

[slatyb]

Why are you giving your friends gifts? In the US we mostly give gifts to very close friends and younger relatives.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Damn, you got some shitty friends

[slatyb]

@CupcakeTheDestroyer None of us wants more stuff -- I give occasional small birthday presents if there's some sort of gathering, which there usually isn't. We trade buying wine and food at restaurants.