Am I selfish for making my hoarder sister sign a contract to live with me?

[Kassandra1994]

So my 41 year old sister she is a hoarder I told her she has a hoarding issue of letting things go the momnet a threw away a lipstick that was expired from two and and a half decades ago. My sister still keeps cosmetics lotions she bougth from 2001 disgusting and ridículos.

Few weeks ago she called me that if she could stay at my house while she gets money for an aparment my sister thinking O was going to say yes to her immidatly. I told her that she will need to sing a contract in order for that yo happend and that O dont want her junk hoarding un my house my sister called me selfish and hang up. Am I selfish? Or a bad sister?

[Cutegirl06]

Definitely not selfish! You are taking care of your needs first that doesn't make you selfish. If you can't take care of yourself first you can't take care of anyone else including your sister.

[Purpleronnie]

You’re not selfish. Your sister is asking for a place to live, and given her history of hoarding, it’s perfectly reasonable to set boundaries before she moves in. A contract isn’t punishment—it’s a way of protecting your home and avoiding future conflict.

The fact she reacted so strongly suggests the issue isn’t the contract itself, but that she doesn’t see her hoarding as a problem. Helping someone doesn’t mean giving up your right to have rules in your own home

[Abbycado]

No, you just don't want crap all over your house.

[bowenw]

It's not selfish if it will prevent her from hoarding, but I suspect she will still hoard and you will be faced with having to throw her out. Have a plan in mind for how you will do that and not be guilted into letting her stay.

[Spencer10]

Not at all. A good contract makes total sense. You have to have ground rules.