When did you finally stop chasing friends who never reach out back?

[Bkay123]

I have two friends that I barely hear from anymore. Ever since my one friend Lou started dating this girl I barely hear from him anymore. My other friend Jim when I ask him to hangout it’s always some excuse that he can’t hangout. I hear from him time to time but never set a schedule to hangout. He’s always saying it’s been a while we should hangout but when I ask he’s always busy. I’ve been thinking a lot about our friendships and I think I’m close to cutting ties with them both. Or at least never reaching to them anymore unless they contact me first.

[browsingthroughthe]

Nah my friends from high school still catch up every so often, coffee ☕ entertainment 🍿
We are just regular guys.

I'm sure man , like the rest of us, you can always make new friends. Even unlikely places. Work friends, Church friends, social club friends, a mutual interest club (hobbies, sports, golf club, country club, car club, Harley club) etc

A collection club. Just get out there and live. 😃

[browsingthroughthe]

The same way you're on here telling us strangers - and enjoy life 😋 like the rest of folks you see out there. Dining, laughing, socialising.
It's not hard. It's really not hard at all

[Bkay123]

This dude they just hired this past summer seems pretty chill. We get along at work and I found out that he lives right up the street from me. He found another job so this is his last week. I think I’ll ask him to hangout.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Bro, friends rarely exist. People are just associates for the most part.

[Bkay123]

Yea I don’t think I’ve ever experienced the friend part yet lol. Just people that have nothing to do at the time when I’ve asked to hangout.

[Nikki1989]

I give pretty quickly when it comes to situations like that. I only have 10 or so solid friends I can rely on 24/7, but that is more than enough for me.

[Nikki1989]

*give up

[Bkay123]

Lucky to have so many friends.

[Anonymous]

Just don’t reach out until they do and you’ll find out if they care or not. No one’s too busy to chat here and there and check in at least.

[Bkay123]

I’ll see how long it takes for them to reach out first. Exactly though. Everyone has their phones glued to their hands. It seems people use the “im busy” word a lot.

[Cutegirl06]

I stopped when I was in high school.

[rose_noire]

When I realized effort was the answer.

If I stopped reaching out and the friendship went silent, that was the truth. Not cruelty, just clarity.

I stopped keeping score and started noticing peace.

The ones who stay without being chased are the ones who were actually holding you too.

[Bkay123]

That’s makes a lot of sense. I’ve stopped reaching out last week

[exitseven]

I had people I went to college with that I thought would be in my life forever. There is only one that I still email.