Girls, do you ever deny liking a guy?

[Anonymous]

So there's this girl with whom I get along great. Talking, teasing, playful arguing, big smiles, eye contact ALL THE TIME. SO I told her I liked her and she said the feeling wasn't mutual. SO now we talk like we always do, but she also tells me we aren't friends, then what the hell is going on? Friend is a nice way to let me down, but not even that? If she clearly gets along with me and has a sense of comfort talking to me and teasing me everyday like if it was going out of style, what's with her then? She is not the kind of girl to draw attention to herself, she is shy, but she is always trying to get my attention by throwing sarcasm and arguing over nothing.

[May31]

Considering that she's shy, there's a possibility that she's denying it. If a guy I like asked me if I liked him, I can guarantee, that I wouldn't be so quick to say yes. But I wouldn't tell him no either because that would be bad. I'd ask him to give me some time to think about it (I'd be thinking about how I'd break it down to him or if I'm actually feeling a certain way.) I've had a bad experience with doing something somewhat like that (telling someone that I don't like them when I do), so I don't plan on doing it again.

Years ago, I liked this guy, but I didn't want him to know because I wasn't ready. But my cousin found out (don't know how...) & told his cousin who told him & his brother, while I was sitting right there! I know they told him because he was smiling right at me! Anyway, I denied it and they went & told him that too. I was nine then & the fact that that happened kind of hurt me. Possibly more then him, so I told him when I was 14 (5 years later! - of course I'm not 14 anymore!) before I did, we were really close & then when things were coming to an end, I let him know so I wouldn't have to go on with the rest of my life, feeling bad about it.

[May31]

Maybe that's what she's doing?...

[mid20sgirl86]

I deny it but its not in the same situation your in. I am not pretty and I worry the guy will get freaked out by it if he knew. So I pretend I don't. However I think I've hurt someone recently who actually did have mutual feelings so it sucks. Who knows when ill meet someone who likes me back.

[Dorkstar]

lol, maybe she is testing you, ever thought about that. to answer your question, for me personally... it's not that I deny the guy I like it's that I don't believe or want to understand the kind of "feelings" I have towards him. I like to talk to you, tease and laugh we have a good time but then when the question is asked.. I tend to say no or go away and leave me alone.. I don't know maybe I'm just weird.

[Asker]

No you are not, that's exactly what it feels like she is doing. I mean, our friends see it, when I talk to her, she looks directly into my eyes, I have them tattooed in my brain of how much we look at each other and how much she smiles, but she said no and there's so much tension when we are together in the room and talk to each other, our friends just crack up when we go on and on arguing.

[Dorkstar]

well. age doesn't matter when you deny things or not. Its just for me it's committing sometimes we say that becuase we don't want to lose our freedom. we like to talk to you and be happy but we also don't want the relationship. I would say be her friend and when she is ready you'll know and if she disappears for a while you know she thinking about you in a serious manner. I know it sounds confusing but maybe she just wants to see first...

[Kain6th]

Don't play games. that is exactly the kinda sh*t that guys hate.

[Anonymous]

She doesn't like you. Girls at your age already know what they want and you're probably just a very good fun friend to argue with. I know I have guys like that (I would never want a relationship with them for my own reasons). Continue to be good friends with her and keep looking for that special someone.

[Asker]

Well, she denied being my friend, so there goes that idea. I don't even know why she talks to me and has that familiarity if "we are not friends". Even her friends don't get that much crap :P

[Opinion Owner]

She doesn't like you. Jesus!

[Kain6th]

Don't be rude to the QA

[Opinion Owner]

The QA clearly doesn't get it. He's making up excuses and thinking of every little detail she does so he can convince himself that she likes him.

[Asker]

Thats alright. We all have opinions here. I know some people who fly off the handle when others are being negative and they get all paranoid and when the negativity comes true, they don't want to hear "i told you so". If anonymous is who I think it is, it is her who I'm talking about.

[Opinion Owner]

Who? What?

[girlthatneedsanswers]

she probably doesn't feel the sparks between the two of you, however the statistics are there, you liking her, yall getting along having fun. However that may come about in time I don't know if your up for that or not just food for thought

[Asker]

Yeah, but she certainly gets fired up when she criticizes me and seems to enjoy it. My whole thing is that if she is shy, doesn't like me and isn't my friend, what could possibly drive her to talk so much "crap" to me, her being so nice to people in general. I just thought it was odd :)

[XNicholex3]

Yeah I use to deny it when I was in middle school. Again, I said MIDDLE school.

She seems to be acting like a little girl with this situation!

She is probably just scared.

[Asker]

Yeah. she tends to have a middle school mentality for these things. I'm a smart guy she is a smart girl, that's why we can play off each others' jokes and make arguments out of nothing but when it comes to that, she acts weird. I'd agree that maybe she is scared...

[XNicholex3]

Yup, it is most likely the fear of getting hurt or hurting someone.

[KingofSnitches]

Hi Maxwell,

You need to move on. I thought this chick moved away. Trust me, she's not worth your time. Stop over-analyzing this entire situation. You can do better.

Much love xoxo

[Anonymous]

I don't deny liking a guy. If I like a guy, I tell him. I don't play games. I don't know if that's what she is doing but maybe that's it.

[lilypad579]

Some girls do because they are affriad of getting hurt or rejected.

[XNicholex3]

Exactly! : )

[Kain6th]

Well gee who's getting rejected here?you say no once don't expect him to come back. And girls want guys to approach right?

[mizzkeribaby]

yupp. I've denied it before.

[Asker]

why? care to elaborate? :)

[Anonymous]

I have denied it.