Guys do you ever just like a girl too much?

[nicolerae08]

Like you like her so much you can't be with her because it scares you. I think some guys really like their gf's and want to be with them but just get too scared of the commitment and how serious they get about her. At least that's how my ex is I'm guessing. We talked for around 6 hours one night and then he pretty much started avoiding me after. I think he just got scared of getting close to me again. I on the other hand would rather have him in my life than not at all. I sent him a message explaining that. And asking him to sort of tell me why he was avoiding me since I only had theories. He never replied. It was almost a week ago. I know there's nothing I can do but get on with my life and forget about it, but I would like some insight as to maybe how he feels and if guys do feel that way about girls a lot. Opinions. Experiences? :)

[TimInLove]

I've fallen in love recently with a girl, and I think she's the most phenomenal person in the whole world. I'm going to ask her out (tomorrow if I have the courage).

Here's the thing though, I KNOW she feels the same way about me. Not only is she exhibiting all of the signs but many other people who have seen us have told me that she does.

So if (deep down) I know that she feels the same way about me that I do about her, then why do I almost go into a mild panic attack when I think about getting closer to her?

I don't want to justify us guys stupid behavior, but is there a built-in fear of commitment to everything in guys? Cause that's what it feels like. It isn't even fear of rejection that has been causing me pain or grief, but more just the thought of taking another step down a road. I know I want to be going down this road, it's just committing to taking another footstep that is so tough.

I'm sorry that I've been rambling... a lot on my mind, but it felt pertinent to your question. I hope I have been helpful. I guess what I'm trying to say is that it's really hard to take another step down the road, no matter how easy it might seem or how much you want to go down it.

[nicolerae08]

Wow that's super helpful. When me and my boyfriend got together he liked me even more than I did him. Sounds like you and that girl. Well eventually something broke in me and I felt the same way about him as he did me. We had always intended for the relationship to be fun. It got serious though and fast. But coming from the end of that situation and a girls pov I would say just go for it. It's better knowing you tried than just gave up out of fear. Life is short. I hate knowing me and my boyfriend could have

[nicolerae08]

Been together if he were at a different place in his life where he was ready to commit. I know he loved me and probably still does, but rather than taking a chance he pushes his feelings away. It sucks being the girl because you're in this spot where you know you both like each other, but can't be together because of your fear of the future. That just seems stupid. Life and love are about taking chances. Just know it will probably just as hard if you decide not to date her as it will if you do.

[nicolerae08]

Because you've already decided you like her. If you think you are going to get scared and back out then I'd say do her a favor and quit wasting her time because then it hurts both of you. Me and my boyfriend never expected it to be this hard. Idk. just trying to give a little advice. hope it helps. Try following your heart rather than your head. :P Guys never do that. lol.

[TimInLove]

Thanks so much. Wow. I guess we both sorta answered each other on that one. I'm definitely going for it now. She's way too perfect for me to just let her go, and I will never be able to forgive myself if I don't take a chance. I've had a couple of gfs before (short lived mind you), and all I know is that this girl makes me feel more RIGHT than I've ever felt before with anyone, and she deserves someone who cares more about her than he does himself. Thank you again. :)

[nicolerae08]

Wow that's so sweet. Well I hope it all works out for you. I'm the same way haha. Glad I could help. Thanks for your input. :)

[Zhang16]

How did it go for you guys?

[omarittoo]

definitely but too much is always what makes the relationship worse and i think girls don't like that kind of a change in men because they always tend to like the tougher man and if he liked a girl too much he would pretty much do anything to see her happy or please her, that's the point where the girl changes her mind and starts to back off and ends up breaking up.