I would never want to jeopardize a friendship with him, since that is how we started.

[Anonymous]

I have a friend, who I started developing feelings for. Seemed like he was really starting to like me too. We would hang out, cuddle, etc. His friends told me he was very shy, but liked me. So I would make some most of the moves to initiate hanging out. Over the past few weeks though, I felt like I was doing most of the effort, and wanted to find out if he actually liked me, or if I was annoying him. So I wrote him, asking if he was interested, great, if not to let me know because I didn’t want to ruin our friendship or make things awkward. He replied with a very sweet message that at this point he didn’t know what he wanted. He made sure to let me know that he thought I was beautiful, awesome, sexy, etc. However said he was so busy with work and also his desire to move to a different state, that he was indecisive about “dating” anyone. Above all else he is a great man. Very sincere, sweet, a complete gentleman, etc. So I would never want to jeopardize a friendship with him, since that is how we started. However I want to know if guys can be indecisive and then come around, or if this is usually the guys “nice way “ of letting a girl down. My intuition really told me he really likes me. That is why I am so confused. I guess my question is simple…do guys sometimes need to think about what they want and come around…or is this the end? I am not waiting for him, since what he said has closed the door for now. But just curious as to the meaning behind the answer. Thank you for your responses in advance.

[TheChristian]

Hi there. I know we always want to hope that there is a chance and maybe in the future there is however right now no guy that is truly interested will tell you that he needs to think about it band in addition would even be considering moving away if there was a possibility of a new relationship that he was waiting on. I wish you the best but anyone who has been spending as much time as you say you have together should already know that you're special and should jump on the chance to be with you, especially if he's shy and waiting to you to initiate. He shouldn't have to think about anything. Now I will say that since he is considering moving an showing some confusion there may be things going on in his life right now that are higher priority than you so he may like you and its bad timing however that's not your concern as he is not ready now and that's all that matters. Wish you the best.

[Anonymous]

Don't want to jeopardize friendship? Try anyways...

[Asker]

He says he doesn't know what he wants though. I don't want to overstep and be pushy. I think he really liked me though. I don't know...this sucks!