How can you tell if a guy actually likes you, thinks you're cute, is a player, or is just friendly?

[Anonymous]

There have been a couple times when a guy showed signs of liking me, but didn't. The 1st guy just thought of me as a friend, and the 2nd one said he likes someone else. Some of the signs the 1st guy showed were starting to message me on fb when we didn't know each other well, smiling when he saw me, spending an hr drawing me a picture, asking me questions about myself, walking with me after school, teasing me, stopping me when he saw me walk by at school and then offering me a sip of a drink that we both liked, implying that he looked at me during the class we had together. For the 2nd guy, he didn't show as many signs but I mostly got a vibe from him that he likes me. We do the same sport and that's how we met, and whenever we were partners he would end up smiling and laughing a lot even though we didn't talk. When school started I saw him around school a lot and when he saw me walking by he would stare at me or watch me walk by. Sometimes he would also look alert I guess when he noticed me passing by. One time he passed right by me where he was like a few inches away from me, and out of my peripheral vision I could see him look down at me as he passed by and smile to himself and this was before I started liking him. He also seemed to be shier around me than with other people. The only time we had a real conversation he wouldn't look me in the eyes and kept looking away but he was smiling. He also agreed with a mutual friend of ours that I'm really pretty. Basically what I'm getting at is that I thought these two guys liked me, but it turned out that they don't and I want to know how to tell between a guy actually liking me, just thinking I'm cute, just being friendly, and playing me. How can I tell the difference?! I'm tired of being led on and getting hurt because I can't tell the difference :(

[ArtistBboy]

Guys that are players will make you like them (think of the "vibe", you mentioned).. Everything that do makes it seem like they like you, but they rarely actually DIRECTLY do anything (think of the first guys Facebook messages, etc) until they are getting closer to you. The thing that you should understand is that not "all" players are bad; infact, there are some and a lot of average guys (not your typical player) that can probably cause you more emotional drama than what it's worth. Not to mention how much more fun it is to date someone that understands attraction - most players make it into a chase / mystery / etc.. But then again, I'm thinking movies because I haven't actually dated a guy. Nor do I plan to. So your stuck with the observations of a third party. What I can say is that the guys who are worthy of your heart, that may not know how to approach you perfectly, often go unnoticed and unheard. We might wave, look, or smile.. but rarely would we say hi, and if we did it might be just a brief 5-7 word sentence and then finding an excuse to escape because the pressure is almost unbearable to stand next to someone your interested in, which you have no chance of dating. Just know that we look back on those memories in later life with a pleasant mindset - remembering how that one beautiful, talented, intelligent girl, even took the time to notice us.. Really does make a difference, just like I'm sure it does to you when a handsome, charming, intriguing guy does the right thing to make your heart melt. All is good, live, learn, love, laugh. You're young, you will make mistakes, and no advice is perfect.. But if I had to give you one piece of advice, it would be to wear sunscreen.

~ ArtistBBoy

[ArtistBboy]

keyword first sentence... "...will make YOU like 'them'"

[Asker]

What about the 2nd guy? He didn't really talk to me, just mostly stared or looked at me and smiled, laughed, or blushed when we were partners. Do you know how I could tell if a guy like that doesn't like me?

[ArtistBboy]

The article above wasn't about either of the guys, it was simply a statement of how guys behave if they are players or if they are attracted, average, males. The latter of your question - how to tell if the 2nd guy ISN'T attracted, I can't truly give a straight-edged guideline to follow. Most of the time, you'll notice if they are friendly or cold. Cold is a direct way to say they aren't interested - whether they are in a relationship or just not attracted to you is a whole 'nother article..

[Asker]

Okay thank you

[mangetsby]

Are you asking this question for gay men?

[ArtistBboy]

Most likely asking the question in hopes that a man might divulge what edge he had towards attracting women, or maybe a gay guys advice towards the situation, possibly another lady with some experience in the field. I don't feel that she was specifying who could respond. Just sayin'

[Asker]

I guess anyone, but I was mostly just directing it towards guys in general, like if you guys act similar with your crush and other girls you don't like but there's a difference with the girl that you actually like...idk if that made sense but I don't know how to phrase it.