What do you do if your best friend's boyfriend likes you?

[crestbust]

Basically, my friend has been dating this guy for almost 5 months now, and I have become good friends with him through my relation with her. Only thing is, her boyfriend apparently has liked me since the beginning of the year, way before he even remotely considered her. He actually was going to ask me out, but was informed at that time I had a boyfriend.

Then, he turned his attentions to my friend. I hadn't even talked to him, and I had no idea he liked me. The first time I talked to him, was when I was introduced to him by my friend on their first date.

We became friends, he owned up to his feelings, and I realized I had feelings that reciprocated. So, now I'm stuck in the worst kind of stereotypical love triangle. I love my best friend and would never want to hurt her, but I like this guy SO much, and he likes me back equally, and my friend loves us both.

It is terrible. So, my friend's boyfriend still flirts with me and we hang out. We don't do anything. EVER. I would never hurt my friend. But, we can't help the flirting. And he keeps initiating get togethers, saying how he misses me.

It's not fair to either me, or my friend. I know this. I just can't seem to do anything about it. It has gotten to the point where I can't even look at them when they are holding hands, let alone making out.

WHAT DO I DO?!?!?

[chiba]

Think for a minute. If he is willing to flirt with you behind your friends back what makes you think he wouldn't do the same thing to you? Is it worth losing your friend over this guy? Don't tell him you won't date him because he is currently seeing your friend. He will probably just dump her in an attempt to get with you and if you take the bait, kiss your friendship goodbye. It all boils down to what's more important. Your current friendship, or taking a chance with some guy who apparently doesn't respect his current girlfriend. Your best friend! If you do take a chance on the guy be prepared. You will lose your best friend and if things don't work out with guy you will be 0 for 2.

[crestbust]

I completely agree. My one friend who knows of this situation has already told me this. I just wanted some more input. The only thing I don't know how to do is to extinguish my feelings for him. How do I do that?

Haha, sorry if I keep asking you things. XP

[chiba]

'The only thing I don't know how to do is to extinguish my feelings for him. How do I do that?' - Well, feelings are rather complex. Chemicals are released from our brains that make us experience all kinds of emotions. You can't just tell your brain to stop sending you these impluses. It's a natural thing to feel what you are feeling. The only thing I can recommend is maybe give them some space. Stay away from the temptation. Maybe find some sort of outlet to get your mind off of this guy.

[1FastFC]

wow that sucks.

not much you can do except wait and hope that his interest in you gets to the point where he finds some reason to end it with her so he can't start something with you