How Hard It Is To Be An Unattractive Woman (Page 2)
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I don't agree you have convinced yourself you are. Attractiveness is not how you look it's how people see you as a person. Youthful looks go away... Say you are 50 years old the young will see an old woman beauty wouldn't come into it. For instance my mother died at 105 at a 100 she would go out with her friends and had some male admirers. At her funeral it filled with old friends. You have friends but you don't know it could be just down to how you interact with other people. Try a smile hold your hand out and say hello my name is?,,, the rest is up to them if don't want to know their loss move on to someone else...
I don't care what people think even though it hurt to see so much hate just because of your looks (dumbest thing ever). Anyway if this is what people want , only good looks then I don't care if I die alone. I really don't care, if they don't want me I don't want them neither. :D bye bye
I don't know how unattractive girls do it. It's hard enough to be a pretty girl, but unattractive girls have all the same challenges without the perks of being hot. I've been offered 3 jobs based on my looks, and two of them were from women. I had a woman at my gym offer to make me one of her agents in her commercial real estate firm because she said I had "it," that everyone turned to look when I walked in a room. Unattractive girls don't get anything like that.
I agree with what you said , being attractive has advantages. Is that you on your profile pic? you're truly beautiful.
It is a bit of challenge for us unattractive women. Attractive people of both genders tend to have lots of friends, but they don't know if they truly, genuine friends.
I know you've heard this every but love yourself and have more confidence. Don't know how to tell you how to boost it because it's all on you. However I am going to say this-Beauty does not last. When you love yourself, others will love you. You will be able to flaunt your personality and show your true charms. I have a friend who's "unattractive" but attracts many guys not because of her looks but because of her personality. It's not just the looks guys look for, guys want a girl who loves herself. Just take of your body, stay healthy, don't do drugs and live your life. Have a nice day :)
I feel the same way :(
https://lolcow.farm/g/thumb/1510927212325.jpg
And for the guys out there, it's not about still having it easier than men, it's about feeling good about yourself in general.
oh i'm so sorry that you don't feel good about yourself even tho you have it all handed in a plate to you compared to men. it must be hard :/
In complete honesty, it's not that much better at the other end of the spectrum. I still have really bad days where I feel plain, or unwanted, and I'm pretty convinced no one will ever be happy with how they look, no matter what they do. I doubt you're that unattractive, and also, it is completely possible to change your body figure as a woman without surgery or lifts or tucks.
Believe me , I am that unattractive and it's something I'm coming to terms with everyday. And yes you have bad days I understand and I'm sorry. But you should really try and be happy about how you look if you are attractive , sure us humans tend to focus on the negative , but ask yourself , do the negatives of being attractive outweigh the positives? Or does it not effect you badly that much?
And I tried everything to change my body shape from V shaped to hourglass , it's not possible. I've tried every exercise out there , every corset , anything. I still don't look good , tell me if you know anything?
I've always been very content with my body, but I still work out a lot. and if you have an apple body shape thats not bad, but there are a lot of workouts to increase the size of your butt. Lunges, Donkey Kicks, Jump squats. Keep that up for a few months and I guarentee you will see improvements.
There will always be some people more physically appealing then me, as there will always be plenty less. Same applies to you.
I used to do a 100 squats everyday for 6 month and lunges a few times a week and I still only got muscular yet skinny looking legs. its like my body is stuck being that way. I don't know what to do any more.
And yes you are attractive , and you're right there are less and more attractive people than you or me , but you actually look good enough to a lot of people , I bet you also get hit on frequently or don't suffer as much in the dating world. And to me , since I look ugly to most guys , surely the issue is with how I look and so what am I gonna do about that? If I'm ugly to most people then I'm ugly regardless of those less attractive than me.
Bahah, my profile photo is absolutely awful. I happen to be very unphotogenic and the only thing flattering in there is my body, but thank you. I've seen unattractive people get hit on- maybe its your attitude? Confidence is key.
This is where money helps. Just change your look.
People don't like it because they have no money.
Do you thinking most of the actresses and singers are hot? Nope, they got an army of people to take care of their looks. From those white teethes to the clothes they wear.
Begin changing piece by piece. Unless you have no eyes or your eyes look strange then everything can be changed.
Well I dress okay but women's clothes don't look good on me. And I am changing but I'm reaching a point where nothing will work ( I've fixed my skin , currently fixing my teeth , losing lots of weight) . Yet I still look the same , believe me I'm one of those ugly people who won't get better looking.
Need the professionals to help you. From changing the style that fits you to the hair that goes with the style to your make up.
Or go deeper and do surgery.
I don't have money for surgery but maybe , though I believe surgery never makes a person fully satisfied. There's something powerful and nice about knowing that you're naturally beautiful and attractive by nature, not by surgery.
Your 1st priority is to make a ton of money now. Aim for 2 mil.
Surgery is the same as make up. It's the same as fixing your teeth or burn away that strange dot you have somewhere you don't like.
There aren't many people with a cool natural look. Everyone use make up, lighting and photoshop to look decent.
From a biological perspective, you are correct that men care a lot more about physical appearance than women do, but I can tell you from personal experience that an unattractive woman can DEFINITELY make a guy like her, even if he might not compete for her attention as soon as he sees her as he might with other girls. An ugly girl who's kind, sweet, gentle, soft, caring, empathetic and nurturing will also speak to what men biologically look for in a mate.
What's hilarious about this take is all the support she gets from women who lament bullshit like this and when a man does it, he's considered whiny and pathetic. And hardly any women have sympathy for that.
But, let a woman complain and its all sisterhood and tear wiping. Lol
I'll just say the same thing women say to men in this case (and I wouldn't be wrong for doing so): I don't care if your unattractive. Figure out a way to become so by working on yourself. After that, you'll get, or attract who you desire.
This doesn't work differently just because you're a woman. No matter how much you like to think it does.
I feel you as well if you are feeling unattractive right now. People do tend to ignore the pain of an unattractive woman and don't address it. I hated it when guys complain when they feel unattractive since most women don't really focus too much on the appearance as guys are. Women view beauty different than men do. Ugly guys can get away with being funny and cool, but unattractive women can't.
( Kindness.)... goes a long way
with men. So does being wise and not smart with an attitude. With these two characteristics , all the above fades away. Men don't fall in love with smart attitude women , they fall in love with (Kind) women who are wise.
These traits have actually pushed away a lot of men , maybe it's because guys my age haven't matured? I know it's also my unfortunate looks but guys my age seem to chase girls who are pretty or have a certain 'spoiled' attitude. The whole smart, kind , wise never worked and most guys find me boring...
You have you're points in general. Most all of this tho , isn't always true. But being consistant is what prevails. Its not about technique , its about you're true self.
"I honestly sometimes wish I was a man. Everything would've been easy and at least people would have overlooked my unattractiveness and focused on something else that's positive in me "
Hahaha. You're naive. As an unattractive man, I can tell you that anything you feel and live, I live it too. It's not easier.
But if you work on your confidence and personality, you can still be likable to others.
Have you seen for example how many unattractive rich people are out there yet others still like them? it's because of status , status looks good on men. No one cares if a woman has status.
Though I'm not discrediting what you said and your issues, I understand what it feels like.
Unattractive rich men*
People doesn't like unattractive rich men. They like their money. And unattractive rich women are liked for the same reason.
I'll tell you, it's even harder for unattractive guys, because even an unattractive girl can find a man thirsty and desperate enough to date her.
While an unattractive man, unless he has money, will never find anyone.
Isn't the man thirsty enough to date the unattractive woman, he himself will be unattractive? That means unattractive men find unattractive women and date them, so most unattractive men can actually find women. But that's not always true. Or common.
No, because women are usually more picky. Even unattractive women wouldn't go for an unattractive man. Unless he has money.
I think one thing beautiful about us ugly people is that we know how we look and not giving people satisfaction of insulting us makes us winners. We can also focus better on our stuff since we are not disputted by look which we can't change.
Forgot to mention: We also know look is not most important thing. Yes, we are also just people and like to see pretty people. And nothing is wrong about that.
Very few women experience this. Most women do receive interest from men... i know this... I've been friends with girls who are less then average (who think they are hot of course). Attractive women have things easier that's for sure.
I won't say I know how you feel but I would say work a lot on your personality, and look for the thing that you hate the most about your apparence and change it... if it makes you more confident and feel beautiful after that change another thing.
Do you mind if I ask what, if anything, have you done to try to improve your appearance?
You said that makeup worked for you some years ago but it doesn't now. Could you explain that a little more?
May I ask how old you are?
unattractive women have it easier than unattractive men because there will always be at least 1 guy who would want you. if you're an unattractive guy you're... well i would say fucked... but thats exactly whats not happening
I doubt you're that unattractive as you claim.
But don't be so hard on yourself. You just need one man in your life... not a bunch of thirsty guys flirting with you.
How will I find this one man? no one has ever approached me before.. And when I approached guys they all rejected me , even some who weren't out of my league.
Sometimes you're trying too hard to find love instead of letting love find you.
But how will love find me if I'm so insecure and unattractive?
There is someone out there for everyone... despite your insecurities. That doesn't mean you shouldn't act upon them.
Not to sound condescending but I'm going to go along with you for a second. Okay, you are ugly. Guess what, you aren't going to pick from the top of the pile looks wise but the person you get will truly love you. There is an average to below average looking man out there who will appreciate the fact that he isn't competing against anyone for you. Do you know how special it is to love someone that no one has ever loved before? By the way, you may never be pretty but you can still be cute.
try being an ugly guy. unattractive woman always has a chance... cuz she is a woman.
me on the other hand and other ugly guys... not so much
there are two sides to this. An ugly guy can land an attractive woman if he has lot's of money and status, but it will be hard to keep her loyalty. An ugly woman can always find a partner because she is a woman, but it will be hard to keep them around. If you want, you can send me a picture and I'll give you a brutally honest answer about your attractiveness level and tell you what you can do to improve it, most people can be moderately attractive if they reach their maximum potential, and there are ways to do this. Cut out sugar completely, go on runs, become a vegetarian, stop drinking alcohol, take martial arts, you will be surprised how much a fit woman's body can compensate for any facial unattractiveness in a man's eyes, ultimately we are attracted to fertility, get healthy and you will probably be fine
@Goochbreaker I feel like this wasn't supposed to be reply to me right?
sorry i went on a tangent and forgot i was responding
@Goochbreaker its ok. I do agree a picture of her would be nice. some people think they are ugly but in reality they are just plain or a bit below average